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  • Eds Nabong: Mothering with Comfort and Joy

    Eds Nabong: Mothering with Comfort and Joy

    Hi, Bagong Nanay!

    Last month, I received an email from a mom who wanted to share her Kuwentong Bagong Nanay. Ang saya ko with matching kilig, kasi moms are becoming open to share their stories through Bagong Nanay. It’s giving~ sulit ang domain at hosting natin!

    For this month’s Kuwentong Bagong Nanay, I’m honored to share the story of Mommy Eds Nabong from Rizal. She is a mom of a 5-year-old boy named Josiah, and is also the founder of Aimerie, a proudly local cloth diaper brand.

    Here, she tells us what made her give up her career and built her business, and how she’s breaking norms in parenting, one day at a time.

    Kuwentong Bagong Nanay of Eds Nabong, mom of one and founder of Aimerie

    Before becoming a mother, I was totally focused on my career as a licensed mechanical engineer. I wanted everything to go as planned, so I set goals and made plans. I loved being in charge and completing tasks flawlessly. Both my husband and I put in a lot of effort and hoped to create a secure future for ourselves.

    But when I became pregnant for the first time, everything changed. I was filled with love but also with fear. I was filled with love but also with fear. I remember thinking, “Kaya ko ba ’to? Am I gonna be enough?” My husband was always there to reassure me that we would learn together as first-time parents.  Every day felt new, and my only goal was to give our child the best that I could.

    “Many people think that once you become a mom, your dream has to take a backseat. But I believe motherhood can be a start of something new.”

    – Mommy Eds Nabong

    One of my most important decisions was to put my career on hold to focus on our child and start a small business from home. Although it was difficult, I did what I felt was best for our family with my husband’s wholehearted backing.

    Mommy Eds Nabong (center) and her family

    My favorite thing about being a mother is that it taught me to appreciate the small things in life, such as quiet times, changing diapers, and morning cuddles. I discovered that being present is more important than being flawless. I bring that same heart with me to Aimerie, a brand built with Pusong Nanay.

    Reimagining lampin

    When I think of lampin, I remember how my mom used it for my younger siblings. We have a big age gap, so I was old enough to help her take care of them. I would watch her fold and layer each soft, thin, plain white cotton lampin with care. She would change it every time my siblings peed or pooped, then immediately wash it and hung it in the sun. It was part of her daily routine. Tiring, yes, but done with so much patience and love.

    So when it was my turn to be a mom, I didn’t have second thoughts about using lampin again. I wanted my baby to feel the same comfort and care that I saw growing up. Like any other first-time mom, I researched what was best to use for my baby. And that was the time I discovered the rise of cloth diapers here and abroad. I realized times have changed. Many parents today find lampin hard to use or too old-fashioned. But when I saw those modern cloth diapers, I thought, “I like this idea.”

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    Mommy Eds and Aimerie cloth diapers.

    That became my inspiration for Aimerie, my way of bringing back the lampin I grew up with, but made easier for today’s parents. I wanted to keep its softness and heart, but make it more practical, functional, and a little more beautiful.

    That is how the Aimerie Modern Lampin was born, made with Pusong Nanay and designed for the new generation of moms.

    Why parents should try cloth diapering

    1. Babies need presko time.

    I believe our babies deserve a break from being in plastic all day. Here in the Philippines, where it’s often hot and humid, being presko is something that every family values, especially for babies.

    Cloth diapers help give that comfort. Over time, this simple idea became what we now call Presko Time, a few hours a day when baby’s skin can breathe and mom can relax knowing her little one feels fresh and comfortable.

    2. Cloth diapering saves cost.

    With the prices of basic needs rising, every peso counts for families. Thankfully, cloth diapers can be reused for years, and they can help a lot in saving money. Instead of buying disposables every week, you will only invest once and use them again and again. This becomes a very smart and practical choice for parents who wish to save without having to sacrifice the comfort of their babies.

    3. Cloth diapering saves the planet.

    We all know that the problem of waste worsens in our country year after year. Floods, garbage, and plastic everywhere affect the world our children will grow up in. Cloth diapers might seem like a very small thing, but it has been of great help already. Whenever we wash and reuse, instead of throwing away, we cut down on waste and show our children how to take care of the earth. It feels good to be able to say that as we take care of our babies, we’re doing something nice for their future.

    Parenting traditions or norms I hope to break or rethink

    1. That moms can’t dream big.

    Many people think that once you become a mom, your dream has to take a backseat. But I believe motherhood can be a start of something new. I might have put my career on pause, but it opened doors for me to build something with purpose. Being a mom doesn’t mean we stop dreaming. It simply means now our dreams include our families, too.

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    In her element. Mommy Eds talks about presko diapering.

    2. That modern means forgetting the old ways.

    I want to remind other parents that not everything old is outdated. Traditions like using lampin may seem old-fashioned, but they still work. They just need a modern touch. That is why I wanted to bring back lampin through Aimerie, to show that some of the best ways are the ones passed down and made with Pusong Nanay.

    “I wish my son will remember that I raised him with love and patience. They weren’t all perfect, but every decision I made was based on what would bring him comfort and joy.”

    – Mommy Eds Nabong

    3. That being a good parent means being perfect.

    It is easy to feel pressure to do everything right as a parent, especially with all we see online. But I’ve learned that being a good parent isn’t about being perfect. It’s really about just being there, loving your child, and trying your best. I figured out that not everything we plan will happen, and that’s fine. Motherhood has its own timing, and the best moments are usually the ones that were never planned.

    What I hope my child will remember

    I wish he’ll remember that I raised him with love and patience. They weren’t all perfect, but every decision I made was based on what would bring him comfort and joy.

    Mommy Eds and her son, Josiah.

    I wish he’ll remember the little things that I took care of him and played with him, that I listened when he needed me. I hope he will see that I am working hard not just for our future, but with purpose and heart.

    Most of all, I hope he will remember how warm and full of love our home is. Even though not everything turned out perfectly, we did everything for him to make him feel safe and cared for.

    I am Eds Nabong from Rizal. I am the Bagong Nanay of Josiah, 5 years old.

    I’m a hands-on mom and the founder of Aimerie, a Filipino brand that brings back the tradition of lampin through the Modern Lampin, made with Pusong Nanay.

    I dream of seeing more Filipino families rediscover the comfort of lampin for their babies. I enjoy designing new diaper patterns and products for Aimerie. When I’m not working, you’ll find me reading books or watching movies.

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  • Jilianne Roylence Francia: Normalizing Breastfeeding Everywhere

    Jilianne Roylence Francia: Normalizing Breastfeeding Everywhere

    Hi, Bagong Nanay!

    August is National Breastfeeding Awareness Month, that’s why sobrang honored ako to feature the Kuwentong Bagong Nanay of Mommy Jilianne Roylence Francia, the mom behind the local nursing wear brand Valianne’s Trends.

    Mommy Jill and I worked together for Smart Parenting. But before that, when I was still starting my Bagong Nanay online shop, I saw her shop and got insecure why I should start my own, when she is already thriving in the same space. Eventually, we became friends online, and now I am one of Valianne’s Trends mom ambassadors!

    There’s no better person to share about normalizing breastfeeding in public than Mommy Jill. A proud padede mom, she has two daughters, and a baby boy on the way. Here’s how she is helping more moms breastfeed in style, and persevere through the help of products that she lovingly created.

    Why we should normalize breastfeeding in public

    I was a first-time mom in 2018 and I joined breastfeeding communities to get inspiration from other mothers. I try my best to pay it forward to my new mom friends and give them the support they need in their new motherhood journey. I share how it may be hard in the beginning, but it will be worth it.

    However, a few of them still don’t persevere in breastfeeding for a number of reasons. First, they lack of confidence. Second, people around them say they don’t have enough milk. Third, and the hardest, is the societal pressure. Of course, we respect how babies are all fed and we appreciate every new mother’s effort regardless of their choice. Still, I wanted to help normalize breastfeeding because it has been the most rewarding thing I’ve done as a mom. The bond between me and my child is unlike anything else.

    Mommy Jill breastfeeding her second daughter, PV.

    At Valianne’s Trends, we want to share photos and stories of normalizing breastfeeding in public. As a breastfeeding advocate, I want to share my story because I also drew inspiration and strength from the stories of other moms. I believe that if we won’t be brave and consistent in sharing our stories, we might lose the chance to encourage a mom who just needs a spark of hope to keep going.

    How Mommy Jill’s breastfeeding experience evolved

    One thing I am so proud of myself as a mom is that I was able to breastfeed my two children, and I will breastfeed my third child, too. I remember almost giving up when I experienced cracked, bleeding, and sore nipples because of wrong latch. I even unfollowed breastfeeding groups because I thought I couldn’t bear it, but the sleepless nights of educating myself about proper latch all paid off. I’m happy that I did not give up because, right now, my story has become someone’s source of inspiration, too.

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    Mommy Jill is pregnant with her third child, a boy, and is determined to breastfeed him.

    I want to share to our community that more than just selling clothes, Valianne’s Trends supports them in their breastfeeding journey. We tell them that moms can become confident again after going through hardest days of the postpartum period, or the fourth trimester.

    Breastfeeding is hard work. If you think you can’t, you won’t persevere. Although it’s challenging, it’s a fulfilling journey. When you’re struggling, go back to your ‘why.’

    -Jilianne Roylence Francia

    What helped Mommy Jill in her breastfeeding journey

    Nursing clothes

    Clothes with nursing access has always been a life-changer for me. I remember using nursing cover when breastfeeding in public for the first time and my baby and I weren’t so comfortable with it. It took me a lot of courage to drop the cover and practice wearing our nursing clothes confidently.

    A strong support system.

    Having my elder sister as my number one supporter helped me a lot. She was the one who told me that I have enough milk when I thought I couldn’t produce any.

    The right mindset

    Feed your mind that you can do it. Breastfeeding is hard work. If you think you can’t, you won’t persevere. Although it’s challenging, it’s a fulfilling journey. When you’re struggling, go back to your ‘why.’

    About the Bagong Nanay: I am Mommy Jilianne Roylence Francia from Bacoor, Cavite. I am the Bagong Nanay of QV, PV, and VK. Outside motherhood, I’m a writer, goal-digger, and dreamer.

    Want to share your #KuwentongBagongNanay too? Comment below or send me a DM on Instagram.

  • Roanne Duran-Pascual: Raising a Reader

    Roanne Duran-Pascual: Raising a Reader

    Hi, Bagong Nanay!

    July is National Children’s Book Month, kaya naman I asked a fellow Bagong Nanay to share how she’s raising her toddler son to develop a love for reading.

    I remember interviewing an Ivy League professor and author Gregory W. Slayton, and he shared that children learn how to make sense of the world through reading. He boldly said, “You cannot be a leader if you are not a reader.” No pressure naman sa ating mga nanay, kasi sabi naman niya, even if you are not a great reader yourself, at least, help your child to love reading because it’s through it that they understand how the world works.

    So for our first #KuwentongBagongNanay since our re-launch, I asked my good friend Roanne Duran-Pascual to share tips and book recommendations for parents. Roanne is one of the greatest storytellers I know. ‘Yung tipong kapag nagkuwento siya, feeling mo nandun ka sa pangyayari, ganun ka-vivid. I believe it’s because she reads and writes a lot. That’s why when she became a Nanay, I know she’ll enjoy telling her son stories, and nurturing his love for reading too.

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    Roanne and her son Noah. Courtesy of Roanne Duran-Pascual

    Kaya wala nang patumpik-tumpik pa, here’s how Roanne raises her son to be a reader and a leader. In her words, she’s a Bagong Nanay who is ‘living the prayer, and learning every day.’

    Read on, and share this with another Bagong Nanay.

    Why raise your child to be a reader, according to a reading mama

    I strive to raise a reader because, first, reading opens up a limitless world—and books are passports that take my son to places we never could. I love how books allow him to see, hear, and feel things beyond his everyday experience. How his imagination expands with every new character he meets and new adventure he takes on. This is particularly crucial during children’s foundational years (0-3yo), when their brains are developing at lightning speed. Which brings me to my second reason. 

    Studies have proven a wide range of benefits of reading to child development. From cognitive and communication skills, to focus and critical thinking. Kids learn faster, comprehend better, and analyse sharper. Of course, we can teach all these skills in other ways, but if we can nurture them all just from one regular activity, isn’t that a big win for us parents?

    Reading is one of the best ways to learn empathy.

    -Roanne Duran-Pascual

    Third, and most importantly for me, I want my son to grow up recognizing and respecting others who are different from him. To hear voices and feel experiences other than his own. Reading is one of the best ways to learn empathy. Like why Rainbow Fish won’t give up any of his shiny scales, or how happy Giraffe felt when Porcupine knitted him a scarf—simple stories allow him to learn others’ struggles and emotions.

    Little Noah and his book. Courtesy of Roanne Duran-Pascual

    He may not fully show these traits now, but it’s never too early to teach him compassion, kindness, and seeing the world through the eyes of others.

    How to raise a reader: 3 practical tips

    Be consistent.

    I know, it’s hard for us parents who have endless to-do lists and barely half a brain to keep up with routines. So choose at least just one part of your kid’s day and dedicate that time for reading. It could be before bedtime, after shower, first thing in the morning—whichever works best for you and your kid. It doesn’t have to be long, even just 15 minutes of fully present time, every day, makes a huge difference in the long run. Consistency is key.

    Make it accessible.

    Have books within their reach as much as possible. (Yes, there will be book casualties, but trust me–it’s worth it). If you can, get a toddler shelf so they can pull out books anytime they want (there are pretty decent ones in Lazada/Shopee that are less than P1,000).

    Books don’t have to be expensive. Check with other parents if they have hand-me-downs. Second-hand bookstores are also great places to score affordable gems.

    Roanne Duran-Pascual

    If that’s not an option, just set up a cozy corner with a pile of their books. We also usually leave books lying around in bed, which he can pick up when he wakes up before we do; and we always pack a book in our baby bag as the default “toy” when we go out.

    Make it fun.

    Reading should be something they enjoy, not earned or dreaded. Avoid associating reading with rewards, punishments, or chores. Make it as normal as eating and playing. Bonus: let them see you reading yourself and finding joy in it. 

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    Noah: Happy reader here! Courtesy of Roanne Duran-Pascual

    Book and author recommendations

    Noah’s turning two in October and these are the books he engaged well and clearly picked up most from.

    Dr. Seuss beginner books

    They use simple, repetitive words, and catchy rhyme and rhythm. These help kids learn and memorize words more easily, boosting their confidence and encouraging them to read more.

    Adarna board books

    Books from Adarna House are best in introducing age-appropriate concepts in Filipino, like body parts, family members, and food. I especially love their series on Filipino values and mabuting asal.

    Sandra Boynton and Eric Carle books

    Both are engaging series. Boynton’s are short and humorous, often in sing-song patterns, making them super fun to read. Carle’s have vibrant and engaging illustrations with subtle lessons embedded in stories. 

    There are so many wonderful books out there, so feel free to discover what your child enjoys most. And remember, books don’t have to be expensive. Big tip: check with other parents (friends, mommy/daddy groups, online declutter pages) if they have any hand-me-downs. Second-hand bookstores are also great places to score affordable gems.

    About the Bagong Nanay: I am Roanne Duran-Pascual from Marikina City. I am the Bagong Nanay of Noah, 1 year and 9 months. Outside motherhood, I’m a storyteller and development worker, who dreams of opening her own bookstore one day.

    Want to share your #KuwentongBagongNanay too? Comment below or send me a DM on Instagram.

  • Chesca Susmerano: Strong Moms Need Support, Too

    Chesca Susmerano: Strong Moms Need Support, Too

    Hello, Bagong Nanay!

    Kamusta? Because we are celebrating Women’s Month (and hoping it never ends), I invited a very special mama to share her #KuwentongBagongNanay.

    She’s none other than Chesca Susmerano, the creative mama founder of Studio Maria. She is also the co-creator of the Bagong Nanay Club Merch collection, which was released in January.

    This woman – she’ll never know how much impact she has created – with every shirt, every wisdom she imparts to moms online. I remember her posting this – and immediately – I immediately believe that I can dream again.

    And when we worked together for Bagong Nanay Club, I’ve never felt so alive and so inspired to keep doing what I’m doing.

    When another mom inspires you to dream, you just got to keep doing whatever you can to support her. Here I am, sharing her story with you, so that she can inspire you to dream again, and make it happen too.

    Here’s Chesca Susmerano, everyone. A strong mama who supports other strong moms, and admits that she needs support, too. This is her Bagong Nanay story.

    1. Can you briefly share your “How it started” vs “How it’s going” story as a Bagong Nanay to Likha and to Studio Maria? Highlight your top 3 milestones, and recognize what/who helped you achieve them.

    How I started as a mom – newlywed, new career milestone and suddenly pregnant.

    I was enrolled in an 11-month master’s degree program in 2018 when we got pregnant.

    Mommy Chesca to-be!

    I started #momlife learning how important a village is not just to raise kids but to help moms achieve their dreams.

    Chesca Susmerano for BagongNanay.com

    I was always the “strong independent woman” type and because of that, my weakness is also asking for help. Being pregnant, I felt some shame when I had to ask people to make some considerations for me because of my situation. I couldn’t join some of the fieldwork, so I overcompensated by doing extra work for the class. I couldn’t join late nights to overtime on papers because I was always tired. I had to ask my parents if we could stay with them. I had to give birth and I had to ask professors to consider a two-week absence. After giving birth, I had to attend daily classes, catch-up on requirements and finish my thesis. I thought I wouldn’t be able to make it but I did, and I brought my newborn daughter on stage the day of graduation.

    Mama made it!

    This experience has really changed my mindset about independence and success in life. From being so hard on myself to achieve personal goals, I learned to be softer, be more vulnerable and be open to ask for help. I started #momlife learning how important a village is not just to raise kids but to help moms achieve their dreams. I thank my village of kind people from school, work, my own family and my husband for allowing me to dream.

    How’s it going – enjoying the journey

    Fast forward to today, I have embraced being vulnerable and I’m still working on having the courage to seek the help I need to pursue my dreams for our family. Studio Maria is the embodiment of embracing vulnerability while being open to ask for help. Transitioning to entrepreneurship required me to lean on my husband and extended family for stability while I pursue my craft and turn it into a small business. I had to be vulnerable enough to put my work out there and get rejected if no one buys from me. I had to be open to relationships in the mom community online, share my own struggles, find joy in our shared motherhood experiences and discover more meaning everyday.

    Hardworking mama founder of Studio Maria!

    Ask us about our dreams and passions and inspire us to achieve them.

    Chesca Susmerano on how people can support strong moms
    Chesca wears many hats for her business – I mean, all hats!
    Her superpower is to make shirts for mamas to wear so that they can be seen

    Motherhood is still not easy but with being open to receive help from the village that I am continuously intentionally building around me, I am enjoying the journey more.

    2. Why is it important to support strong moms? List three things that people can do to support them.

    1. See us and validate our dreams. There are a lot of us moms who feel that they are no longer seen when the baby comes. It is suddenly all about the baby and we are in the background forgotten. We need validation that in this season of our life we focus on the kids and the family, but we will also realize that season of following our dreams in God’s perfect time. Ask us about our dreams and passions and inspire us to achieve them.

    We’d gladly receive help if it comes without any judgments.

    Chesca Susmerano on what strong moms need help with

    2. Offer help without judgments. Even the strongest of moms are sensitive to comments about our kids and our parenting. We already know that we are not perfect so there is no need to point out where we lack or talk about us behind our backs. We’d gladly receive help if it comes without any judgments. Nakakalat yung mga laruan? Pwede mo na rin iligpit kung gusto mo. 😊

    3. Let us know if we are doing a good job. Us strong moms, we are also our own worst critics! We suffer from mom guilt no matter how hard we try to juggle all of our responsibilities. We often forget to appreciate our own hard work. If you see us doing something well, please let us know. It means the world to know we are doing something right.

    3. This year, what are three things you want to be strong at, and what help do you need to achieve them?

    Being present. I’ve noticed that I am a human doing instead of a human being. To be able to be more “being”, I need some time everyday to just be alone and attune myself to my emotions. As a multitasker, it often becomes overwhelming the amount of things I need to do in the day that I forget what matters – my relationships with the people around me, my connection to God. I need time to be alone so I can always step back and check my priorities.

    Grit. They say the key to success is grit – having the perseverance and persistence for very long term goals. For this, I need a community of believers who will cheer me on but also mentor me in the paths I’ve taken. I have moms who I can turn to for motherhood or parenting advice, entrepreneurs who I ask for business advice, and coaches for business and life goals.

    Balance. I need to be better at balancing responsibilities with fun and growth. I want to be a good role model to my family in terms of health, work ethic, relationships and so on. All of these require a lot of work and the key is balancing them and making it work together.

    4. Who is your female role model and why?

    I don’t have to look very far. I am who I am because of my mom. She is kindness, warmth, grace, beauty and peace – all that I aspire for as I grow older. If I can make my relationship with her be like my relationship with my daughter, I would know that I am already a good mom.

    5. What is your advice to Bagong Nanays who think they can do everything on their own?

    Build your own village. Sometimes we think we have to do everything on our own because there is no one else to listen to us or help us. There are two scenarios:

    1. We do have a village but we’re just afraid of being vulnerable and ask for help. Look around you, Mama. Are there people in your life who are willing to help but we don’t let them? Communicate your needs and let the people you trust in your life to help you.

    This was me. I was suffering 5-6 hours on the road everyday going back and forth to work. I desperately wanted to be with my daughter for the early years of her life but I also didn’t want to depend on anybody for money. But then finally, I swallowed all my pride and communicated my desire to resign and start a small business from home to my husband and brother and they supported me all the way since then.

    Communicate your needs and let the people you trust in your life to help you.

    Chesca Susmerano

    2. We don’t have a village and we have to seek them out. Sometimes we just haven’t found the right people we need in our side. Sometimes, we have to seek them out. And now that we have online communities, we can find the tribe we need for us to bloom to like Bagong Nanay.

    This is also me. When I started Studio Maria, I was not part of any mom community and I didn’t know any mom entrepreneurs. But slowly I started opening up and joined community events, talked to fellow moms and mom entrepreneurs and just slowly built relationships with other moms. I super appreciate how other moms in this community show support through encouraging words, advice and even just a listening ear.

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    Artsy mama who will make everyone a statement shirt.

    I am Chesca Susmerano from Las Pinas.
    I am the Bagong Nanay of Likha, 3YO.
    When I’m not being a mom and working on the small biz, I meditate and paint flowers.

  • Jo-an Liwanag: I’m a Mom, And I’m No Longer on Facebook and Instagram

    Jo-an Liwanag: I’m a Mom, And I’m No Longer on Facebook and Instagram

    Hello, Bagong Nanay!

    When was the last time you posted a photo of your baby on Facebook or Instagram? Two hours ago? Last year? Never?

    As first-time moms, it seems like we are compelled to post updates about our nanayhood journey – starting with a photo of our positive pregnancy test – to videos of the latest tricks our child can do. Some do it because “it ain’t official til it’s Facebook official,” and some do it “for the ‘gram” – wanting to feel some kind of high from the likes and hearts and wows that your post can get.

    But for Bagong Nanay Jo-an Liwanag, things changed when the Covid-19 pandemic started in 2020. She shares, some of the social media sites that she used to love are no longer part of her new normal.

    This is her #KuwentongBagongNanay, of logging out of Facebook and Instagram – and logging in as a more hands-on parent to her three kids.

    1. What made you decide to stay off social media?

    I love being on social media, to be honest. It’s where I share my day-to-day stories, updates about our family so that our friends and relatives who live far away can get a glimpse on how we are doing. There were a lot of times that I would go offline on social media just to take a break, but only during the start of the Covid-19 pandemic, around May 2020, that I decided to officially bid goodbye to the social media world.

    I was pregnant with my third child then, and it was not easy. It’s the most difficult pregnancy I’ve ever had; I experienced vomiting, nausea, and I was put on bed rest for the entire first trimester because of hemorrhage.

    I was 16 weeks pregnant when the pandemic started, and it made my experience even worse. Anxiety started to kick in, and then fear and panic. I even had to keep my pregnancy from my relatives and our parents, just so I can focus on keeping my baby healthy. I also experienced pre-term labor.

    I couldn’t stand seeing my news feed filled with angry people. No matter how I try to manage my feed, bad news still gets to me. Some people would even post unverified news, and it adds fear to my underlying anxiety. It was a very stressful time for any pregnant woman. That made me decide to finally log out of my social media accounts – specifically Facebook and Instagram – for good.

    How were the first days like?

    I honestly felt better. I got to sleep better. No anxiety or whatsoever. I did not make any announcement to my contacts, I just went offline, and people did not notice it that much. Only my closest friends realized that I was missing in their social media accounts. Honestly, it was easier to let go that way. You leave them puzzled and allow them to think whatever they want to think. People are entitled to their own presumptions.

    Mommy Jo-an Liwanag, with her kids Caitlin, Rafa, and Andres

    2. What can you say are the top 3 pros and cons of a Bagong Nanay who is not on social media?

    The top 3 pros for me are: increased productivity both at work and at home; more time for yourself and your family; and more time to connect with friends and family through private conversations.

    I honestly think the cons are subjective. I think it depends on how easy or hard it is for you to leave social media. For me, the only consequence is that I don’t get to access the profiles of relevant suppliers, and I can’t browse through the marketplace for things I need for work and for my family.

    3. Would you recommend having a social media timeout to other Bagong Nanays? Why or why not?

    Yes, I highly recommend having a social media timeout, not just for Bagong Nanays, but for everyone. Going offline gave me the liberty to regain myself behind the keyboard and my phone screen.

    Mommy Jo-an and Andres

    It helped me regain my sanity. Our mental health is very important. Going offline gave me more time to reconnect with the people around me, and it gave me the opportunity to share ideas and opinions to my friends by having real, private conversations.

    4. Have you noticed changes in you or in your outlook in life with you not being in social media anymore?

    Definitely! I finally learned how to accept the things I cannot change and to celebrate my small wins and big wins privately. I also realized that you don’t need other people’s validation or aim for self-gratification just to make yourself happy. I learned to live simply, and to stop comparing myself to others.

    I finally learned how to accept the things I cannot change, and to celebrate my small wins and big wins privately. I also realized that you don’t need other people’s validation or aim for self-gratification just to make yourself happy.

    Jo-an Liwanag for Bagong Nanay

    5. Where do you spend your time on – now that you’ve saved a lot of time from not being on social media?

    Happy and healthy kids of Mommy Jo-an

    I spend my time on taking care of my health and the health of my family, which is very vital in this time of pandemic. I focus on taking care of my body, and when I can, I squeeze in a 30-minute or a 1-hour workout.

    I spend my time on taking care of my health and the health of my family, which is very vital in this time of pandemic.

    Jo-an Liwanag for Bagong Nanay

    I learned to listen to my body. I don’t workout to regain my pre-pregnancy body. I never workout for vanity. I do this because I want to be strong and healthy for my family, so I can keep up with their demands. 

    I try my best to keep our family healthy by providing them the nourishment that they need, especially at a difficult time like this.

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    I don’t go overboard. No fuss.

    I am Jo-an Liwanag from Parañaque City.
    I am the not-so-Bagong Nanay of Caitlin 11, and Rafa 10, but a Bagong Nanay to Andres, who is 11 months old.

    When I’m not busy working, washing dishes, cleaning the house, or feeding four bellies that never get full (including husband’s), I workout or binge-watch on Netflix.

    (Hey, it’s the only thing we can do for now since it’s pandemic, but I would love to travel again with family and start to create more core memories with them again).

    Want to share your #KuwentongBagongNanay too? Send me a message, and let’s talk about it.

  • Mindy Lagdameo: Your Body Is Not Broken, It Is Brand New

    Mindy Lagdameo: Your Body Is Not Broken, It Is Brand New

    Hello, #BagongNanay!

    It’s been almost two years since I gave birth via C-section, and it’s only recently that I have come to really appreciate and love my “new” body.

    Growing up, I was constantly underweight. When I was in college, I used to weigh 78 lbs. I’m not proud of it because I was not also eating healthy then. No exercise too. So my skinny body was borne out of my unhealthy lifestyle.

    But since I got pregnant with my firstborn, I changed my eating habits. I added more fruits and vegetables to my diet. I’ve been breastfeeding her, and just recently, I started getting myself into physical exercises – in May I’ve tried classes on Zumba, Pound Rockout Workout, Belly Dancing, and KPop Dance (thanks to my oily friends for the free classes).

    And I was also influenced greatly by my husband who has started to do some weight-lifting exercises at home – because physical fitness is part of our family goals for 2021. I told him that our goal for having a healthy and fit body as parents should not just be about looking great, but more on being physically and mentally capable to take care of our child.

    So I try to get myself moving, even if that means dancing my daughter’s favorite Banana Chacha or Hotdog dance.

    But what inspired me the most was seeing and meeting virtually this Bagong Nanay, who happens to live just in our neighborhood! I’ve seen her in mommy groups, and I’ve always wanted to try joining her classes. She is a certified pre/postnatal fitness coach, and a certified postpartum core rehab specialist.

    So I took the leap and asked her if I can share her #KuwentongBagongNanay, and her answer was a resounding yes. She is the mama behind MamafitPH, Coach Mindy Lagdameo.

    May we all be inspired and empowered with her story.

    1. What was the toughest challenge you faced when you became a Bagong Nanay?

    I literally had no clue how hard it was going to be to lose my sense of self. My first pregnancy was such a breeze I didn’t think that I would change or compromise so much after. I felt like I was literally just winging it and was terrified most of the time. My body didn’t feel like my own. I had a fit pregnancy, but ended up with an emergency CS and horrible postpartum period. I really struggled with the lack of support and knowledge of how to move properly or get back into feeling like myself. 

    How did you overcome? What helped you?

    It really does take a village. My mom lived nearby, plus I had a circle of Mama friends that really supported me through my early postpartum phase. Then I decided as well to educate myself on how to properly recover and regain strength after childbirth. I took pre and postpartum rehabilitation and wellness certification courses in order to better equip myself, and also to be able to raise awareness and help other Mamas as well.

    Mama Mindy Lagdameo with her girls Ellie, 6yo, and Erica, 3yo

    3. As a Bagong Nanay, how important is it to be physically fit? What is your definition of being a ‘fit’ mama?

    “Fit” is a relative term, and honestly being fit as a mama doesn’t need to mean that you can lift barbells, or run marathons or have 6 pack abs. Those are definitely great, but to be a fit mom is simply being able to be physically, emotionally and mentally capable to look after yourself and your family and have complete connection and full control of your body. Yung kaya mo buhatin si baby ng ilang oras na walang back pain, or if maisipan mo na gusto mo mag jogging or mag join ng Zumba class na walang fear na you might pee yourself.

    Follow @mamamindy.fit on Instagram for pre/postpartum fitness content!

    “To be a fit mom is simply being able to be physically, emotionally and mentally capable to look after yourself and your family and have complete connection and full control of your body.”

    Mindy Lagdameo for Bagong Nanay

    4. What are top 3 items that Bagong Nanays can use to do simple workouts in their home?

    You actually just need your beautiful body!

    When returning to movement and exercise postpartum, as you are still getting to know your body again, it is best to start with bodyweight exercises. Also kung simple lang and exercises mas mataas and chance na you will be motivated to start and continue the exercises. This is why my Mamafit core restoration program is a completely bodyweight program; all you need is a mat.

    Super helpful content on her IG: mamamindy.fit

    5. What is your advice to Bagong Nanays who have insecurities about their postpartum body?

    Mama, your body just achieved an amazing, wonderful feat. It has also gone through the biggest change it will ever go through. Be kind to yourself. Your body is brand new and can change again, it has the capacity to heal itself, and be strong and amazing again. Just don’t ever give up on yourself.

    Your body is brand new and can change again, it has the capacity to heal itself, and be strong and amazing again. Just don’t ever give up on yourself.

    Mindy Lagdameo

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    Trying my best, day by day.

    I am Mindy Lagdameo from Eastwood, Quezon City. I am the Bagong Nanay of beautiful Ellie, 6 years old; and Erica, a very makulit 3-year-old. When I’m not constantly picking up after my kids and ignoring my laundry, I workout, meditate and read.

  • Cybil Malipot, Bagong Nanay At Age 39: It’s Worth The Wait

    Cybil Malipot, Bagong Nanay At Age 39: It’s Worth The Wait

    Hello, #BagongNanay.

    Katulad ko ba kayo na atat na atat mag-asawa noon dahil sabi ng society ay dapat mag-buntis na ang babae at a certain age? Or else, baka huli na ang lahat?

    Share ko lang. I remember when I was still in my early 20s, I was very keen on getting married and have kids to the point na nagiging reason na siya ng awayan namin ng jowa ko. Pressure cooker ka ghorl because?

    But it was partly because when I was only 17 years old, I had an abdominal ultrasound because I was complaining about stomach pain. The test didn’t find anything wrong with my organs though. But it showed an unexpected result: I had two masses on both ovaries. At 17 years old. The doctor told me and my father then that the only way to get rid of those is to get pregnant, and take them out when I deliver the baby.

    I was like, WHAT?! I can’t explain how shookt my father was either.

    Fortunately, both masses disappeared after a few years. I became a mom at 29 years old. Then my father asked me: “Are you sure kaya mo na alagaan si Lia?” I was like, “May choice ba ako Papa, syempre kakayanin. At matanda na ako no!”

    Kahit ata 21 or 32 ako naging nanay, di ko masasabi kung kaya ko.

    Our #KuwentongBagongNanay for today is the incredible journey of Mommy Cybil Malipot, a Bagong Nanay at age 39. Yes. 39.

    I hope that her heartwarming story will inspire you that while age could only be just a number, being a parent goes beyond being physically and mentally prepared for your baby.

    But is it worth all the pain, all the trouble, and all the wait?

    Read on.

    1. How would you describe your nanayhood journey?

    It’s not perfect, but it has been the most amazing journey by far.

    Four months past the birth of our son, and we still can’t believe that we have been blessed with this tiny, sweet, and beautiful baby.

    I guess that’s what waiting and longing can do. No matter how tough the road ahead is or will be, because we have long imagined ourselves to be where we are now, we will embrace it.

    Cybil Malipot, Bagong Nanay at age 39

    Often, I’d find myself tearing up while staring at my son’s face, and I don’t know why. Not once have I complained to my husband about having sleepless nights, or the toe-curling pain of breastfeeding, or having my battle scars slowly healing and not allowing me to wear a bikini (as if!) anytime soon.

    Now that we are here, there is no way but to welcome this adventure called parenthood. There is nothing that this whole journey can throw at us that will make us complain about every tough curve ball parenthood will bring.

    I felt being chosen to bring this beautiful boy to this world; we cannot mess up. I still have my fears. Being a parent is scary especially that parenthood doesn’t come with a manual. To be given this chance to nurture another human being makes this experience so surreal. This baby completes us. Completes me.

    Mommy Cybil with her son, Gian Elroi

    2. What were the challenges that you encountered when you were pregnant?

    I cannot say mine was the toughest, but what I can say was, I have been very blessed. I didn’t have morning sickness, no aversion to food. We thought I wasn’t pregnant which led to me taking the pregnancy test almost every day from my 8th to 10th week of pregnancy!

    When we lost our second baby, first baby to my husband, my aunt told me to look for a Maternal and Fetal Medicine Doctor. The stars have aligned, I found one in VRP Medical Center, a tricycle ride away from where we live. She recommended I do an Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome (APAS) screening, which confirmed I was APAS positive. I developed gestational hypertension, my heart was enlarged, and the APAS might lead to deep vein thrombosis.

    Everything had to be controlled from then onwards. The restrictions were overwhelming, which made me think that I wasn’t giving enough nutrients to the baby. From one cup of rice reduced to only ¼. Only one fruit per day. Low to no salt diet.

    I guess the worst part of being APAS positive is the twice a day injection of Heparin – an anticoagulant to decrease the clotting ability of my blood so I can give enough supply to the baby. These shots had to be made at the belly area twice a day, by yours truly. For how long? The instruction was until I give birth.

    Cybil Malipot

    The first shot was terrifying. I remember having to go on a Viber video chat with my mom, a licensed nurse. She taught me virtually how to inject myself in the belly. The most painful part was when you run out of areas to inject, so there are spots where I need to inject into them twice or thrice. Ouch.

    3. How do you find being a Bagong Nanay at a time like this?

    My biggest worry was going back to work. Leaving my son at home while I work in the office was something that I wasn’t too open about, to be honest.

    We have been very blessed that my work allowed me to stay home and be with my son. I feel lucky because not all moms have the same opportunity – to still witness the small and big milestones of our son at the comfort of our home.

    Of course, I am still very paranoid. Our groceries are done online. We disinfect everything. Groceries, fruits, vegetables, everything in our house. It has made me appreciate technology even more because we really don’t go out except when we have a doctor’s appointment, but other than that we just really stay home.

    The pandemic may have made me paranoid but it has also made me more cautious about physical and mental health. My self-discovery was that I can be a home body, which I thought I couldn’t. I had to be creative to find ways to purchase our needs despite the restrictions, or how to entertain myself and the baby at the confines of the four corners of our home.

    But more than anything, the time that I spend with my son is the best reward this pandemic brought to us. We enjoy every bit of it while we still can.

    4. Do you think that the age you become a parent actually matter?

    I am neutral on this. I was told that a woman’s prime years are between 25 to 29. I was 26 when I had my first baby. I lost my baby two days after I gave birth. I was in my supposed to be prime years.

    I got pregnant with my second baby when I was 38, and lost it. I then gave birth to my third at 39. To someone who has lost two, we never expected our baby to survive. I was prepared for the worst.

    Cybil Malipot

    The downside of being a parent, at this “stage” of my life, is centered towards the fact that physically, there are noticeable limitations. I kept telling my husband a woman’s system is not like men’s that even at 70 they can still procreate. Our body is not designed to give birth at 70 – we have a “deadline.”

    I regret not to have tried having a baby sooner. In the first few years of our marriage, we agreed to put aside baby plans until we were ready. We got pregnant, I wasn’t ready still. I was just forced to be ready because I was already in the situation.

    On the upside, while waiting for my turn to be a mother, I felt like I’ve had all the time in the world to learn from all the mothers around me. This motivated me even more to be one.

    Cybil Malipot, Bagong Nanay at 39

    Now, I can say that we have a clear vision of how we want to be as parents. I have the advantage of technology where tips on how to be a parent is readily available. And now that I have experienced motherhood, it’s the most beautiful thing in the world, becoming a mom. It has made the wait even more worthwhile.

    Family of three

    5. What can you tell women who say that they are already too old to be a mother?

    There is no limit in age in becoming a mom or a parent. Anybody can be a mom – no matter how old they are. It’s the readiness of being one that is more crucial for me.

    Cybil Malipot

    I have seen from friends and family where they became parents at a young age and aced it even as a first-timer. I have also seen a “veteran” mom who wasn’t very good at being one in so many levels.

    Also, being a mom isn’t always gender sensitive for me. I have witnessed my father become both my mom and my dad at the same time and it didn’t bother me, because my mom was too far away to be one for me. He wasn’t perfect, but he was fantastic at it.

    It made me see parenthood at a different level – that one must have the strong desire to be a great parent to be called a mother or a father to their children.

    Cybil Malipot, Bagong Nanay at 39

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    I’m the “guilty type” of Nanay. 

    I am Cy, a true bisaya. Born in Cebu, grew up in Bohol, and lives in Mandaluyong.

    I am the Bagong Nanay of Ramon Gabriel (+), 2 days old; Unborn Child (+), 8 weeks old; and Gian Elroi, 4 months old.

    When I am not breastfeeding or changing nappies, I am always nesting (rearranging my son’s cabinet!), and a huge Instagram, Netflix and youtube person.

    I love kdrama and I am still waiting for my Hogwarts letter to arrive because I believe I am no muggle. I love Harry Potter and his friends. The whole movie series is my favorite, my antidepressant. 

  • Chee Vicente: The Perks and Trade-offs of Being an Influencer Nanay

    Chee Vicente: The Perks and Trade-offs of Being an Influencer Nanay

    Hello, #BagongNanay!

    Alin ka dito: yung simula nagka-baby eh panay post na ng pictures niya sa social media, o hanggang gallery lang talaga ang mga selfies niyo?

    For our #KuwentongBagongNanay, tinanong ko si Mommy Chee Vicente, isang nanay na introvert, kung paano nga ba maging isang katulad niya na content creator at influencer. She has over 7,000 followers and counting sa kanyang page na Mommy Chee Speaks. Worth it nga bang i-set to public ang iyong buhay nanay?

    Read more and know the perks and trade-offs of being an influencer nanay.

    1. What made you decide to go public in posting your nanayhood journey?

    When I started my Instagram account, I only thought about myself. I wanted to use it as platform to speak what’s on my mind. It will be an outlet for my creative juices. It’s where I could share my learnings from reading articles, watching videos, and my personal experiences.

    Some of my friends, who were then my first followers, started thanking me for my posts. They said that my posts were something that even they themselves cannot bravely express, and they find it inspiring. That was the time when I set my Instagram account to public.

    I believe that some women, especially moms, need someone who can speak on their behalf – probably because of their fear of being judged and humiliated. 

    I feel grateful when women and moms share their thoughts on the comment section of my posts. I also learn from them.

    My Instagram page then became a platform not only for myself, but also for other women, especially moms. 

    2. What are the perks of being an influencer nanay? Can you share your top 3?

    When my outputs are recognized, it is a more fulfilling experience than receiving free products.

    Chee Vicente, influencer nanay

    First, I found new acquaintances when I became an influencer nanay. Daming communities pala ng nanay na hindi ko alam, kasi prior to building Mommy Chee Speaks, I’m not active in social media nor part of mommy groups. I am an introvert type of person kasi.

    Second, I am learning a lot. From photo/video editing to caption writing to content strategy, I try to improve day-by-day. I also learned a lot from other influencers kasi may nakilala akong influencers who are willing to share their knowledge and skills by replying to my questions via direct message or DM. Haha.

    I also learn from my followers through their comments, and some of them share their personal experiences with me through DM too.

    Finally, what that I like about being an influencer nanay is that I gained opportunities to showcase my talents through working with brands, guesting in live streams & podcasts, and other collaboration projects. When my outputs are recognized, it is a more fulfilling experience than receiving free products. 😂

    Mommy Chee and her son, Tian

    3. What are the top 3 trade-offs of having a public profile on social media?

    Having a public profile on social media is a daily risk.

    First, our privacy (including my immediate family) is somehow compromised. I sometimes post pictures including them and we don’t know if some bad person might grab these pictures and use them for selfish reasons. So for our safety, I don’t post everything about our lives unless I want my readers to gain something from it, or the brand requires it.

    Having a public profile on social media is a daily risk. It also exposes me to a high risk of mental stress.

    Chee Vicente, influencer nanay

    I take time to read the comments of my followers, respond to them, and learn from them so I can plan what content I should post next. Because I treat my followers as my community, I spend time responding to their comments and DMs.

    Being out in the public exposes me also to a high risk of mental stress. As an introvert, hindi ako sanay sa maraming tao. Plus, having a larger audience means having a diverse set of thoughts and beliefs.

    I’ve met some influencers and non-influencers who almost made me stop this page. Glad that I was able to learn to compose myself, and be able to let go of those unhealthy stressors.

    4. If you can go back to your first Instagram post, what would you have done differently?

    We say that we have to change what we did before to make it better. But for me, I wouldn’t change anything. That’s the process that I had to go through. 

    Follow Mommy Chee on Instagram and Facebook: mommycheespeaks

    As per my first post, it will always be a reminder of how far I have gone being an influencer and a content creator. My first post is my stepping stone to where I am right now.

    5. What is your dream brand collab and why?

    This question is a bit hard for me. Pero I dream of working with Puregold or Super8. Haha.

    Since most of my followers ay simpleng nanay din, mas madaling gawan ng content yun mga ganito, yung abot-kaya, yung feasible, ‘di ba? I’m having a hard time creating content kapag yun brand is hindi naman affordable ng karaniwang tao, especially ngayon na pandemic. And honestly, I am not an “into brand” type of person, so kung ako rin ang mag-eengage sa posts ng iba, doon ako sa products na kaya kong bilhin. 

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    I am a Bagong Nanay with faith, confidence, motivation, and love.

    I am Chee Vicente from Laguna.

    I am the Bagong Nanay of Tian, a 9-year-old boy.

    When I’m not busy with my job and household chores, I ride my bike, play with dogs, and watch movies and tutorials.

    Got a #KuwentongBagongNanay story to share? Email us at bagongnanayshop@gmail.com

  • Esther Ramonez-Lautiya: The Joys and Struggles of Moving to the Province

    Esther Ramonez-Lautiya: The Joys and Struggles of Moving to the Province

    Hello, #BagongNanay.

    I hope you and your family are well.

    As a Bagong Nanay who lives in the Covid-19 capital of the Philippines (Quezon City), I am fearful for my family’s lives. Palapit ng palapit ang Covid, close friends and family are getting infected, and we can only do so much. We pray and pray harder that the government response would improve, so that we can all feel safe again.

    That’s why I thought of sharing this #KuwentongBagongNanay story today. Amid the rising cases of Covid-19 in Metro Manila, there are towns in the Philippines that remain Covid-free.

    In this story by Bagong Nanay Esther Ramonez-Lautiya, she shares the trade-offs and the joys of moving from the city to the province with her family.

    May her story give you hope in this very trying time.

    1. What are challenges of moving to the province with your family?

    I feel as if we migrated to another country. It was not my choice, but an assignment we (together with my husband) agreed upon. Nearly three years ago after graduating from a ministerial course as a pastor, Sta. Ana, Cagayan Valley became our mission field. We mutually understood it was his calling, and as a wife, I submit.

    Sobrang nakaka-homesick! At kailangan namin mag-aral ng Ilocano language lalo na’t we are pioneering a church. But more than the challenges, we can testify that hindi kami nagkamali na sundin ang kalooban ng Diyos.

    2. What are the joys and rewards of living away from the metro amid the pandemic?

    Being in a coastal community with fisherfolks as church members, we are humbled as to how life can be so beautiful with the simpler things. We are learning to be content! Hindi nagkukulang ng anumang bagay ang Panginoon!

    And praise God, out of the many towns in Cagayan, as of now, Sta. Ana remains Covid-free. We are praying na manatiling ganito dito bagkus sana talaga mawala na ang virus na ito (gaya ng prayer nating lahat). There are protocols to adhere to, but generally our lives here seem the way as usual – which is definitely a blessing!

    3. Can you share what’s a typical day like in your home?

    Papa, my husband, is our handy man and also our laundryman twice week. Minsan sumasama sya mag-laot, while i take care of the kitchen and other errands. And together with my mom-in-law, we share time para alagaan ang aming 1.5 y/o na bebe boy. Our home is far from perfect, but it is filled with prayers and songs. There are difficult times, very difficult ones, but we overcome by God’s grace.

    4. As a Bagong Nanay, what do you think are the top 3 considerations before moving to a new location?

    Make sure to provide yung daily basic needs ng bawat miyembro ng pamilya, and an environment na mapa-practice ng mga bata yung kanilang mga karapatan.

    Esther Ramonez-Lautiya, on moving to a new location

    For me, it all boils down to maturity. Sana matured enough to be responsible sa mga decisions. In the first place, ito’y tumutukoy sa pagpapamilya (whether mag-stay or considering to move to a new location).

    Try to make sure to provide yung daily basic needs ng bawat myembro ng pamilya, and an environment na mapa-practice ng mga bata yung kanilang mga karapatan.

    5. What’s the biggest lesson that you’ve learned from the transitions in your life? Single to mother, living in the city to settling down in the province.

    Learning to be content! Be content with what the Lord gives! First, sa binigay Niyang husband ko, I am simply grateful for his life. And now our son!

    Nanay Esther and Rhen Zion. Sand, sea, and sun everyday!

    Second, from the mainstream to a very simple living dito sa tabing-dagat, be content! The Lord remains faithful and He’s not done yet.

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    I am God’s work in progress.

    I am Esther Ramonez-Lautiya from Sta. Ana, Cagayan Valley. I am the Bagong Nanay of Rhen Zion, 1.5 y/o.

    When I’m not doing a nanay’s usual tasks or even while doing it I sing, sing, and sing, and I take lots of pictures to showcase God’s wonderful creations.

    Got a #KuwentongBagongNanay to share too? Send us an email or message us on instagram.com/bagongnanay.