Tag: covid19

  • Growing in Grace: Cuddle and Coo PH by Ara Yeung

    Growing in Grace: Cuddle and Coo PH by Ara Yeung

    Hi, Bagong Nanay!

    Kumusta? Kaliwa’t kanan ang balita ng lindol at flu outbreak, okay ka pa ba? Ang daming nangyayari, pero don’t forget that it’s okay to feel anxious and all these big feelings, but let’s do our best to not dwell on them.

    Ang dami kong nakikitang mommies who are preparing their Go Bags at marami ring sellers na nagbebenta ng hard hat. Nabasa ko nga, during these times, it’s okay to worry, but it’s better to be prepared.

    Kaya naman, this October, which is also World Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s fitting to share about the story of a Bagong Nanay who, despite her mental health struggles, was able to thrive and build her own business.

    We put the spotlight on Mommy Arabella April Yeung, the mom behind the brand Cuddle and Coo PH, which offers an FDA-approved lactation and recovery drink and other parent and baby products. I’ve tried their Malunggay & Acai Berry Juice and you can read about my review here.

    Mommy Ara, who used to be a public hospital nurse, shared with Bagong Nanay how she battled with mental health struggles on her own. It was during the COVID-19 pandemic when she finally had the courage to seek professional help, and she was diagnosed with major depressive disorder with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Her husband supported her through it all, and she poured herself into Cuddle and Coo PH, a small business she dearly loves.

    This is her Bagong Nanay Biz story.

    A full circle moment

    I’d like to think that Cuddle and Coo PH began during our first visit to a baby fair—Momzilla—in 2023. We were browsing baby items and came across a booth managed by siblings. One of the sisters was pregnant at that time, and was selling maternity clothes and baby trinkets. We chatted a little, and they were the first to inspire us to dream of creating our own brand someday. I even told my husband, “Hon, one day tayo naman ang mangbubudol.” Little did I know that joke stayed with him, and eventually became real. At that time, I was pregnant with two babies: my son Jin, and Cuddle and Coo PH.

    “Blessings don’t always come all at once—they’re given in perfect timing.”

    -Mommy Ara Yeung

    When I gave birth in August 2023, I struggled with the sweets and drinks I consumed. Since I had gestational diabetes, I had to be careful with my sugar intake. I stopped eating the usual treats and switched to supplements, but it felt more like a chore than something enjoyable. I wanted something refreshing and delicious without affecting my sugar. This became my daily “litanya” to my husband, who encouraged me to reach out to the right people—being a nurse with connections to hospitals and professionals. That was when it hit me: this challenge could become an opportunity.

    Mommy Ara Yeung of Cuddle and Coo PH

    One of the main challenges we faced was delegating tasks. As a nurse, I’m used to things progressing in a certain, structured way. My husband meanwhile is a lawyer, who is more chill and used to delays. This difference often frustrated me.

    For one, we had to launch the brand without our flagship product because of delays with our FDA certification. By God’s grace, we were able to successfully introduce Cuddle and Coo PH at Momzilla in November 2024!

    This Malunggay and Acai Berry Juice is Cuddle and Coo PH’s flagship product

    A family affair

    Every night, my husband and I would say: “Lord, miss na naming mag-pack ng parcel, palambing naman po ng order.” And true enough, there are days when we have no sales at all—days when we look at each other nervously, wondering if people have already forgotten us and worry that our stocks expire. But the Lord has His ways.

    Sometimes the shop is quiet for days, then suddenly we get 10–15 orders in a single day, and we’re scrambling to pack and ship. It taught us that blessings don’t always come all at once—they’re given in perfect timing. It also reminded us to pause, breathe, and enjoy family moments in between.

    “When it gets overwhelming, I remind myself: what a blessing it is to do something I love from home.”

    -Mommy Ara Yeung

    Despite the structured chaos, this business has strengthened our faith and marriage. When I’m busy with inventory, my husband takes over baby duties—feeding, burping, changing nappies, even thawing milk. He has never missed a doctor’s appointment and always makes time for us, even packing parcels after a full day of work. If this business journey has given us that kind of teamwork and resilience, then all the struggle has definitely been worth it.

    Ara with her very supportive husband

    Although we have an extra hand with our sales associate Thea, who works part-time during baby fairs, I handle most of the day-to-day tasks at home while juggling work, chores, and childcare. It gets overwhelming, but I remind myself: what a blessing it is to do something I love from home. What was once just a dream is now reality. Even our son Jin learns from this—he hands us tape when packing or opens doors when I’m carrying parcels. He sees his dad working, too. These small lessons by example are priceless, something words alone can’t teach a toddler.

    Advice for aspiring mompreneurs

    If you want to start a business, you need to be ALL IN.

    No reservations, no shyness. Who else can champion your product better than you, the creator? That’s why I’ve spent almost a year attending baby fairs, engaging with moms and dads about their breastfeeding journey.

    The first year is crucial.

    It’s where you’ll see whether the business is earning or just breaking even. Document everything, down to the last peso. That’s how you’ll know what’s working and what’s not. And very importantly, don’t cover costs out-of-pocket. Let the earnings fund the cycle. Proper costing and accounting are key; otherwise, you risk setting yourself up for failure.

    Have faith in the Lord, in yourself, in your products, and in your team.

    Faith carries you through the days when sales are low and motivation is running out. Sometimes blessings overflow, sometimes it feels quiet. Don’t be discouraged. Maybe it just means more effort is needed or a better strategy for visibility.

    Listen to feedback, criticisms, and setbacks.

    These are not failures, but steps forward. No system is perfect. Cuddle and Coo PH is what it is today because of continuous feedback—from co-merchants, customers, and our small team.


    What’s next for Cuddle and Coo

    Our vision is to make Cuddle and Coo PH a trusted name for moms and families who want healthier, safer, and more thoughtful alternatives in their parenting journey. We want our brand to be more than just products—it’s about community, support, and encouragement for parents navigating the same challenges we faced.

    “Our dream is to keep growing in a way that stays true to our values: family, faith, and love.” -Ara Yeung

    In the near future, we plan to expand our product line to include more parent- and baby-friendly items, with the same focus on health and wellness. We’re also exploring collaborations with fellow mompreneurs and health professionals to bring better awareness and education to families. Beyond online and baby fairs, we hope to eventually have a physical space—a “Cuddle and Coo corner”—where parents can discover products, share experiences, and feel supported.

    Our dream is to keep growing in a way that stays true to our values: family, faith, and love.

    Follow Cuddle and Coo PH on social media and shop their products here:

  • OMG, Bagong Nanay is back! What to expect

    OMG, Bagong Nanay is back! What to expect

    After a three-year hiatus, Bagong Nanay is back for the best, and for good.

    “It’s for the best, for now.”

    ‘Yan na lang ang naisip ko nung nag-decide ako mag-resign from my job as a Section Editor of Smart Parenting. Yes, halos four years in total din ako sa SP. Nagsimula as a community member, naging contest finalist, mom ambassador, contributing writer, hanggang sa inofferan ako ng full-time job as a Senior Staff Writer. Bago nun, two years akong unemployed dahil nagpaka-Bagong Nanay ako sa panganay kong anak na si Lia. Ngayon, may isa pa akong baby, si Titus. 10 months old na siya, which means Bagong Nanay ako all over again.

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    Lia (6) and Titus (<1)

    How Bagong Nanay started (recap lang)

    Ilang araw nalang, my firstborn will be turning six. Nakaka-senti kasi parang kahapon lang nung nag-break yung water bag ko at pumunta kami ni husband ng ospital, thinking baka hindi pa naman time. 33 weeks, 5 days palang kasi siya noon. Eh, sabi ng BabyCenter app, at least 34 weeks sana ang baby bago lumabas para ma-develop fully yung lungs niya. So ayun, nag-stay ng 3 days sa loob ng tiyan ko si Lia, until in-emergency C-section na ako ng aking OB-GYN na si Tita Ana Villaraza na kilala rin bilang si Dra. V sa Capitol Medical Center dahil ubos na ang aking amniotic fluid.

    Si Lia, na dati ay 1.5kg lang noong lumabas, ay isang matalino at madaldal na Grade 1 student na. Ang bilis lang ng panahon. Kaya sabi ko, mabilis lang din naman lalaki si Titus, kaya susulitin ko na muna habang baby pa siya. Focus muna ako sa kanilang dalawa, at habang nasa school si Lia at nap time naman nung isa, makakasulat ako dito sa Bagong Nanay blog na sinimulan ko noong pang 2019. Naaalala ko pa, nasa shower ako noon, maternity leave ko. Hirap na hirap ako bilang first-time mom na nakabukod sa pamilya. Nakatira kami ni husband sa condo sa Quezon City, at walang ibang kasama. Sabi ko, “What if gumawa ako ng Instagram page kung saan pwedeng mag-crowdsource ng mga tanong about parenting? Tapos ako, bilang may communications background ako, icoconsolidate ko into a blog post para mas madaming makabasa at ma-share nila?”

    What is Bagong Nanay?

    So Bagong Nanay was born. Eventually, bilang unemployed ako nitong time na ito at pandemic, naisipan kong mag-try magbenta ng malunggay supplements. Ang lakas ng benta ko noon! Pano, ang business plan ko kasi ay mag-ship as needed ng mga malunggay tea and coffee, patok sa mga bagong panganak. Tipong nasa ospital pa sila, oorder sila at ipapadala ko ura-urada via Grab Express or Lalamove yung orders nila. Bilang gising ako halos buong araw, anytime delivery din ako. Kahit alas-5 ng umaga at kailangan nila ng pampalakas ng gatas, o gabi dahil yun lang ang time na pwede silang makalabas ng bahay, game ako.

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    Bagong Nanay, created in 2019

    Gumawa din ako ng Viber group kung saan mga Bagong Nanay in different seasons of life ang members. Dito, free sila magtanong at mag-usap about anything under the sun. Pero nagsilakihan na din ang mga anak nila, kaya medyo naging inactive na ito. Nasa 90+ members ang Viber group, pero legit na mga nanay ito dahil by invitation link lang ang pag-join. Walang bots allowed.

    Bakit may Bagong Nanay ulit?

    Nag-resign ako sa SP dahil may company policy kami na two days report to office per week. Hindi ako maka-keep up dito dahil 1) hindi ko maiwan ang baby ko dahil breastfeeding kami at clingy siya; 2) ang layo ng office namin sa Mandaluyong, taga-Novaliches kami. Sabi ko, it’s for the best for now. Babalik nalang ako pag kaya ko na, dahil unfair din naman sa mga ka-officemate ko kung ako lang ang naka-work from home at sila ay pumapasok sa office. It’s the best for now because lahat ng oras at atensyon ko ay nakatuon sa aking mga maliliit na anak muna. Makakabalik din si Nanay sa work niya.

    Long story short, gusto ko lang ituloy ang aking pagsusulat at pagiging nanay kaya binuhay ko ulit ang Bagong Nanay. Marami nga lang magbabago, kasi siyempre, natuto na tayo sa mga needs ng mga nanay. Naisip ko, sa dami ng mga content sa social media, ano ba ang kailangan nilang makita at mabasa? Bakit ako dadagdag pa sa mga isipin nila?

    New and improved Bagong Nanay 2.0

    As a Bagong Nanay of two, heto ang mga naisip kong magiging laman ng Bagong Nanay blog na ito at ng social media accounts natin.

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    Bagong Nanay, new logo for 2025 relaunch

    Dati, Bagong Nanay served as a community of new and first-time moms, Bagong Nanay 2.0 is a safe space for mothers and their stories.

    Kuwentong Bagong Nanay

    Sa mundo na puno ng Chatgpt or AI-generated content, magpapakatao tayo. Ang kuwento ng bawat nanay ang bida dito. Tuloy pa rin ang mga Kuwentong Bagong Nanay, na sana one Nanay per week. May kuwentong Bagong Nanay ka ba? Send me a message and I will reach out to you. Read our past features:

    Bagong Nanay Reviews

    Sa TikTok kung saan madaming nabubudol, tutulong tayo to make informed decisions. Tuloy pa rin ang Bagong Nanay Reviews, kung saan itetest ko personally ang mga bago o existing brands in a comprehensive article for every mom’s reference.

    Bagong Nanay and her Biz

    Bago naman ang Bagong Nanay and her Biz, kung saan iffeature ko ang mga mompreneurs at ang kanilang mga locally-made products for support and empowerment. (Haha, parang wordplay pala ng Beauty and the Beast, LOL). Open din ang Bagong Nanay for consignment or affiliate marketing! If you have a biz, hit me up at isulat natin yan.

    Bagong Nanay Things

    Eto ang excited ako. Gagawa ako ng isang page dito sa website kung saan makaka-download ang mga new moms ng mga files gaya ng proven and tested hospital bag checklist, postpartum depression test, at marami pang guides and how-tos. Syempre, para pa din ang lahat ng ito sa mga literal na Bagong Nanay.

    Sa social media naman, expect affirmations, questions, and giveaways. Buhay pa rin ang Viber group natin, in case may gustong mag-join. Madami nang natulungan ang group to source breastmilk, brand recommendations, at event promotions. Active din ako sa Threads, kung andun din kayo.

    Hanggang dito muna ang ire-reveal ko. Pero everything is possible with Bagong Nanay. Wala tayong hierarchy at burokrasiya dito, so feel free to share your thoughts on how we can help each other sa season na ito. Open ako diyan.

    It’s for the best, for now.

    Thank you sa pagbabasa, Bagong Nanay. It’s an honor to exist and write for you.

    Love,

    Nanay Judy

    PS. Bagong Nanay is also a tribute to Dr. Maria Ana G. Villaraza, my dear tita and OB-GYN, who passed away in April 2024. May she rest in peace.

    PPS. Sending a gift to Nanay Kyla Abrenilla Magbag (ky.mgbg) for commenting on my recent post. Yey!

    Follow Bagong Nanay on Instagram, Facebook, and Threads for updates. Join our Viber group here.

  • Paula Batalla-Remetio: Bagong Nanay in the New Normal

    Paula Batalla-Remetio: Bagong Nanay in the New Normal

    Hello, #BagongNanay!

    I am so happy that you are still here.

    Ang daming ganap ng 2021, ano?

    2021 tayo nagsimulang mag-share ng mga Kuwentong Bagong Nanay. From Mommy Ericka in Canada, who shared how she’s surviving being a mom of a little boy and a baby girl, to Nanay Esther who happily moved from Manila to Cagayan Valley with her little family.

    Si Mommy Freda in Rizal, inispluk ang secret to juggling three roles as a mom, employee, and entrepreneur. Si Mommy Chee in Laguna, nireveal naman ang perks and trade-offs of being an influencer.

    Andiyan din Si Mommy Rej in Antipolo, who emphasized the importance of taking care of our mental health. Just like Mommy Jo-an, na nag-log off sa lahat ng social media accounts niya for her sanity.

    Nakakainspire din ang kuwento ni Mommy Cy of Mandaluyong, who became a Bagong Nanay at age 39. At siyempre si Mama Mindy, who was inspired to become a postpartum fitness coach and help other Bagong Nanays.

    Eye-opening ang kuwento ni Mommy Erin of Parañaque about her five tattoos. Heartwarming naman ang kuwento ni Mommy Tzarina, who chose to leave her work in Singapore to be home with her daughter in Pasig. At tear-jerking naman ang story ni Mommy Honey of Quezon City, on how it’s like to be a mom of hyper kids.

    And for our last #KuwentongBagongNanay for 2021, Mommy Paula Batalla-Remetio shares what it’s like being a Bagong Nanay in the New Normal.

    Be inspired by her story of constant worry and fear, and also endless love and hope for her dear son, Lati. Lati is the Hiligaynon term for “new moon.”

    May her story inspire you to believe in new beginnings and look forward to a better year ahead. ✨

    Maraming salamat, Bagong Nanays, for sharing your stories that empower other Bagong Nanays.


    1. What were the top 3 challenges you faced as Bagong Nanay during a pandemic?

    First, my family and I got COVID on my 7th month of pregnancy. I didn’t get severe symptoms but even though I was recovered already, it took a while before my RT-PCR came back negative. I was so afraid it will affect my baby in any way or that I will have to give birth in a COVID building. Thank God that on my 36th week (after 3 RT-PCRs), my results came back negative and I was given clearance to be admitted in the non-COVID wing.

    Second, working full time. After my maternity leave, I tried the WFH setup for a while and it was really difficult. I get really guilty that I’m at home and yet, I’m working instead of being in the other room taking care of my baby. Then even when I came back to work on site, I got really “baby-sick” I just miss my baby so much more. 

    It has been 4 months since I came back to work and I’m still adjusting to not being present 24/7.

    Finally, it’s not being able to share your baby to your loved ones. I come from a big family where we are all very close. When I got pregnant, I imagined that once I deliver my baby, I’ll have all my titos and titas and ates and kuyas waiting for me on the hospital room. But of course, it wasn’t possible.

    Mommy Paula and her baby Lati

    It may sound cliche, but I really prayed every single day of my pregnancy. I had a miscarriage before so I was really scared and anxious about getting pregnant again so fast.

    Paula Batalla-Remetio for BagongNanay.com

    2. What’s it like being a Bagong Nanay living in the new normal? Share a day in your life.

    I am very lucky that I have my mom with me. We were like a tag team when Lati was born. We would take turns in taking care of Lati — she’d let me catch up on sleep while she gets  Lati for paaraw. I’d wake up and prepare Lati’s bath. While I feed Lati, she’d wash all of Lati’s clothing. Then she gets Lati for a nap so I can wash and sterilize bottles, then clean up our room. We have developed some sort of routine where in a day, we get to attend to all of Lati’s needs while also doing the laundry, cleaning the room, and ironing all of Lati’s clothing, etc.

    Looking back, I don’t know really how we managed to do everything daily with little to no sleep, but we did.

    3. What are your 3 tips to pregnant moms or those who are planning to give birth at a time like this?

    • If you are not vaccinated yet against COVID, please consider getting the vaccine. Make sure to check with your OB though. I was on my 40th week when I got my COVID vaccine schedule so my OB asked that I postpone until after I give birth so there wouldn’t be any problem with my hospital admission in case I get fever.
    • Join online communities. I for one subscribed to Baby Center app. Like with everything, stay informed through reliable sources so you don’t give yourself unnecessary worries.
    • Pray. It may sound cliche, but I really prayed every single day of my pregnancy. I had a miscarriage before so I was really scared and anxious about getting pregnant again so fast. Praying calmed me, healed me, and allowed me to believe and trust that my heart’s desire is God’s will.

    4. What apps/hacks helped you go through your Bagong Nanay journey?

    1. Baby Center – the best!
    2. Calendar
    3. Glow Baby (at least during the 1st 2 months when I record everything from feeding time/amt to count of pee and poop to duration of sleep/nap)

    5. What are you most excited about 2022 for you and your child?

    Lati be like, “2022, I’m coming for you!”

    With the ease of restrictions, we’re finally able to visit our hometown for the Christmas holidays where my baby was able to meet our relatives. So I’m looking forward to more opportunities like this where I can share to my loved ones my little bundle of joy. Haha!

    Also, we haven’t brought Lati to any amusement park yet because I’m still anxious about visiting public attractions, but hopefully we can this 2022.

    He’ll also be celebrating his 1st bday on 2022 so I’m excited to start planning already.

    Excited for what 2022 has in store for you, Mommy Paula and Lati!

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    By-the-book but also somewhat laid-back mom

    I like to read and observe, then bombard my son’s pedia with questions on our next visit (if I haven’t already asked on Viber hahaha). Knowing calms me so I don’t freak out easily when I notice something out of the ordinary.


    I am Paula from Mandaluyong.
    I am the Bagong Nanay of Lati, 7 months old.
    When I’m not being a doting mama, I binge-watch on Netfix or catch up on office work that I didn’t get to finish because I was either checking Lati on the baby cam/video calling him.


    Need another Bagong Nanay to talk to? Join the Bagong Nanay Community on Viber and on Telegram. Send me a message for the invite link.

  • Esther Ramonez-Lautiya: The Joys and Struggles of Moving to the Province

    Esther Ramonez-Lautiya: The Joys and Struggles of Moving to the Province

    Hello, #BagongNanay.

    I hope you and your family are well.

    As a Bagong Nanay who lives in the Covid-19 capital of the Philippines (Quezon City), I am fearful for my family’s lives. Palapit ng palapit ang Covid, close friends and family are getting infected, and we can only do so much. We pray and pray harder that the government response would improve, so that we can all feel safe again.

    That’s why I thought of sharing this #KuwentongBagongNanay story today. Amid the rising cases of Covid-19 in Metro Manila, there are towns in the Philippines that remain Covid-free.

    In this story by Bagong Nanay Esther Ramonez-Lautiya, she shares the trade-offs and the joys of moving from the city to the province with her family.

    May her story give you hope in this very trying time.

    1. What are challenges of moving to the province with your family?

    I feel as if we migrated to another country. It was not my choice, but an assignment we (together with my husband) agreed upon. Nearly three years ago after graduating from a ministerial course as a pastor, Sta. Ana, Cagayan Valley became our mission field. We mutually understood it was his calling, and as a wife, I submit.

    Sobrang nakaka-homesick! At kailangan namin mag-aral ng Ilocano language lalo na’t we are pioneering a church. But more than the challenges, we can testify that hindi kami nagkamali na sundin ang kalooban ng Diyos.

    2. What are the joys and rewards of living away from the metro amid the pandemic?

    Being in a coastal community with fisherfolks as church members, we are humbled as to how life can be so beautiful with the simpler things. We are learning to be content! Hindi nagkukulang ng anumang bagay ang Panginoon!

    And praise God, out of the many towns in Cagayan, as of now, Sta. Ana remains Covid-free. We are praying na manatiling ganito dito bagkus sana talaga mawala na ang virus na ito (gaya ng prayer nating lahat). There are protocols to adhere to, but generally our lives here seem the way as usual – which is definitely a blessing!

    3. Can you share what’s a typical day like in your home?

    Papa, my husband, is our handy man and also our laundryman twice week. Minsan sumasama sya mag-laot, while i take care of the kitchen and other errands. And together with my mom-in-law, we share time para alagaan ang aming 1.5 y/o na bebe boy. Our home is far from perfect, but it is filled with prayers and songs. There are difficult times, very difficult ones, but we overcome by God’s grace.

    4. As a Bagong Nanay, what do you think are the top 3 considerations before moving to a new location?

    Make sure to provide yung daily basic needs ng bawat miyembro ng pamilya, and an environment na mapa-practice ng mga bata yung kanilang mga karapatan.

    Esther Ramonez-Lautiya, on moving to a new location

    For me, it all boils down to maturity. Sana matured enough to be responsible sa mga decisions. In the first place, ito’y tumutukoy sa pagpapamilya (whether mag-stay or considering to move to a new location).

    Try to make sure to provide yung daily basic needs ng bawat myembro ng pamilya, and an environment na mapa-practice ng mga bata yung kanilang mga karapatan.

    5. What’s the biggest lesson that you’ve learned from the transitions in your life? Single to mother, living in the city to settling down in the province.

    Learning to be content! Be content with what the Lord gives! First, sa binigay Niyang husband ko, I am simply grateful for his life. And now our son!

    Nanay Esther and Rhen Zion. Sand, sea, and sun everyday!

    Second, from the mainstream to a very simple living dito sa tabing-dagat, be content! The Lord remains faithful and He’s not done yet.

    6. In only six words, describe what kind of Bagong Nanay you are.

    I am God’s work in progress.


    I am Esther Ramonez-Lautiya from Sta. Ana, Cagayan Valley. I am the Bagong Nanay of Rhen Zion, 1.5 y/o.

    When I’m not doing a nanay’s usual tasks or even while doing it I sing, sing, and sing, and I take lots of pictures to showcase God’s wonderful creations.


    Got a #KuwentongBagongNanay to share too? Send us an email or message us on instagram.com/bagongnanay.

  • 4 tips to cope with daily nanayhood struggles

    4 tips to cope with daily nanayhood struggles

    I have to say – nakakaloka na ang mga turn of events. Mag-iisang taon na tayong naka-quarantine dahil sa Covid-19 pandemic. Parating na ang mga bakuna, pero ang bagal ng usad. Dagdag pa diyan, hindi nauubos ang chores natin bilang mga nanay. Shoutout sa mga walang yaya o kamag-anak na kasama sa bahay katulad ko, minsan, hindi ko na alam kung saan pwede humugot ng sanity.

    Nakaka-pressure rin pala no, na ang tingin ng society sa mga nanay ay mga superwoman. May nabasa akong meme kanina, natawa nalang ako. Kasi nakakarelate ako.

    Credits: Close to Classy

    May mga araw na para bang ayaw mong magpaka-nanay. Yung sana pwede lang humilata sa kama at magpahinga. Pero hindi, babangon at babangon tayo dahil nanay tayo. Nanay na tayo.

    Kaya naman, naisipan ko magtanong sa mga kapwa ko nanay sa Instagram kung ano ang mga recent discovery nila para makapag-cope sa nanayhood struggles na nararanasan natin everyday.

    Bilang isang development worker, naniniwala ako na bilang nanay, kailangan holistic ang pagtingin natin sa health natin. Na hindi lang dapat healthy ang katawan at ang kinakain natin. Dapat kasama rin ang emotional, mental, at spiritual health natin. Kundi, hindi tayo totoong okay. Hindi natin maseserve ang mga pamilya natin kung tayo mismo ay hindi okay.

    Tip #1: Move.

    Siguro mag-aagree kayo na isa sa pinaka-challenging sa sitwasyon natin ngayon ay yung bawal lumabas. Mga social creatures tayo eh. Yung panay punta ng mall kahit wala namang bibilhin. Tatambay sa labas ng bahay para makapag-chikahan sa kung sinumang nasa labas. O pupunta ng Starbucks para makipag-catch up sa friends.

    Napakahirap na limited ang galaw natin. Hindi tayo makahinga. Kaya sana makahanap tayo ng way para igalaw ang mga katawan natin. Gaya ni Mommy Chee. Sabi niya, “Recent discovery ko is mag-bike kapag madami na akong iniisip. Lalo na sa mga area na may mga puno.”

    Nakakamiss mag-Zumba. Yung naka-social distancing kayo para hindi magkatamaan sa pagsayaw. Pero pagkatapos nun, kakain kayo sa tapsihan. Pwede pa rin naman mag-Zumba sa bahay, gaya ng kwento ni Mommy Rej dito sa blog niya.

    Involve mo din si LO sa paggalaw para masarap nap niya

    No excuses tayo, mga nanay. Kasi according to Mama Mindy, kahit 6 weeks post-partum ka palang, pwede ka na mag-balik alindog program! Depende sayo kung ano ang gagawin mo para gumalaw basta gumalaw ka. Kasi ako sa totoo lang, sinasayawan ko nalang yung Cocomelon at Pororo.

    Tip #2: Communicate.

    Madami satin na sasabihin na mayakap at makiss lang tayo ng mga anak natin, pawi na ang pagod natin. Pero minsan, may iba pa tayong kailangan para naman maboost ang emotional health natin.

    Sabi ni Nanay Daisy, “Ako po nadiscover kong magbasa ng mga iba’t ibang stories ng mga kapwa ko nanay.” Bilang mga Bagong Nanay, nangangapa tayo minsan. At okay lang yun. Kaya mahalaga ang pag-share ng mga kuwento natin gaya ng sabi ni Mommy Daisy. Abangan: #KuwentongBagongNanay this Saturday!

    Kailangan din natin ng kausap tungkol sa mga feelings natin. Kasi kung yung anak lang natin ang kausap natin, baka maloka tayo. May phase sa buhay ko (bago pa ko magkaron ng anak) na parang mas gusto ko mag-open up sa mga strangers kesa sa mga taong malapit sakin. Wala lang, parang no judgment lang. Bagong perspective ba. Isa sa mga apps na nakatulong sa akin noon ay ang 7 Cups. Pwede niyo siya itry – lalo na sa mga panahong kailangan niyo lang talaga ng makakausap.

    Ito rin ang dahilan bakit ko naisip gumawa ng Viber group ng mga Bagong Nanay. Napakalaking bagay yung may makakausap ka na naiintindihan ka, at magrereply sa tanong mo. Kaya kung hindi ka pa kasali, join ka na sa Bagong Nanay Community. Dito, may nanay na gising para sumagot sa mga tanong mo. Kahit ano pa yan – from paano magpaputi ng kili-kili to anong pakiramdam ng naglalabor na.

    Lagi ko itong ippromote hanggang sa sumali ka na

    Tip #3: Find your peace.

    Taas kamay kung katulad ko – na-a-anxious kayo araw-araw sa kung ano ang lulutuin almusal, tanghalian, at hapunan? Grabe pala maging adult no? Lahat yan iisipin mo kasi ikaw na yung nanay ng pamilya. Kaya kesa mastress ka sa araw-araw kakaisip, ang ginagawa ko ay nag-pi-prepare na ako ng plano ko for tomorrow.

    “To-do lists are lifesavers,” sabi ng mga taga-Parkwood Playschool. Napakalaking bagay sakin na nakaplano na ang araw ko, para wala akong makakalimutan at yung may sense of achievement ka at the end of the day dahil naaccomplish mo ang tasks mo. Kahit gaano pa kaliit yan. Actually, the more specific ang tasks na isulat mo, mas mataas daw ang chance na magawa mo ito.

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    Tip #4: Believe.

    If you know me, baka di kayo maniwala but I (try to) start my day by reading the Daily Scriptures. Kasi minsan, feeling ko pag may problema ako, may sagot na agad si Lord/Allah/Universe bago ko pa itanong. Lalo na at a time like this, kailangan natin ng kakapitan na hindi kakalas sa atin.

    Isa rin sa mga recent discoveries ko ay ang Daily Wellness playlist ng Spotify. Nakakapag-meditate ako at the end of the day – pagtapos na ko magchores at manood ng K-drama. Nakaka-relax siya, at the same time, eto na yung pinaka-me time ko.

    Mix siya of talks and songs – sana naka-Premium ka; ako hindi

    Dahil minsan, hindi naman kailangan ng manicure o pedicure to feel that you are taking care of yourself. Minsan, sapat na yung huminga ka lang. Inhale, exhale. Inhale, exhale. After all, nanay tayo. Nanay na napapagod, nangangapa, nadadapa, pero sa huli, nagpapahinga. Humihinga. Dahil while we breathe, we hope.

    Mahirap maging nanay. Given na yun. Kaya let’s take it one day at a time lang.

    One last tip: When you feel super down or tired, hug your little one. Feel every tiny part of their body. And realize how that tiny little thing could give you so much love. How that small human can inspire you to be superhuman. Yes, babalik tayo sa yakap nila.

    We got this, Bagong Nanay. One day at a time.

    Nanay Judy

  • How to be a #BagongNanay in the time of Covid-19

    How to be a #BagongNanay in the time of Covid-19

    This morning, I woke up the moment my husband was about to go to bed. I asked him, “Anong oras na?”

    “Ah, 4:30. Ano ba ngayon, Wednesday? Hala, Thursday na pala.”

    Uncertain. Our life has been like that every day, for four days now, since government ordered both public and private companies to let their employees work from home amid the coronavirus 2019 (COVID-19) pandemic.

    My eldest sister who works in the BPO industry said it best: this is unprecedented. In her 14 years on the job, they were never asked to stop going to the office and just work from home. Not even during the worst typhoons. It’s never been done before. This is some serious sh*t.

    Anxiety due to this uncertainty hits me every time. I recently quit from my job, after ten years of working, to become a full-time nanay. The thought hasn’t really sunk in yet, as the decision was beautiful and harrowing at the same time. Here’s what I’ve been doing to cope with this uncertainty:

    1. Focus on what matters most.

    With the threat of Covid19 just lurking outside our door, I am striving to be like a swan – cooking our meals, washing the dishes, preparing her bath, breastfeeding her every two hours, reading to her, playing with her, watching nursery rhymes with her, putting her to sleep – but breaking down underneath. Focus on what you need to do, and keep going.

    Your most important task during these times is to keep your family safe and healthy. Don’t pressure yourself to do a lot of things just because you feel you aren’t doing anything. It’s okay. Just keep your home the safest place to be.

    2. Take a break.

    Recently, I’ve been having engorged breasts. Perhaps my baby is not latching well, or probably because I am so stressed. Why was I stressed that night?

    Our President just finished his speech, announcing that there will be an Enhanced Community 1uarantine or ECQ in Luzon. After that, my husband and I watched 93 Days on Netflix, a film about ebola. On top of that, I am unemployed, and anxiously waiting for the results of my applications for home-based jobs. And yes, I need to do everything in my power to keep my family alive and try to keep my sh*t together.

    Everything is messed up, so give yourself a chance to breathe. Take a social media break, watch the daily news but with caution that there are things you cannot control, so do things that you have control. Read a book, write on your journal, or declutter your room. Rest.

    3. Take it one day at a time.

    Dealing with this kind uncertainty is hard, especially for a first-time mother. How long before I can take my child to the park? Or, will we ever be able to go to the park again?

    Find comfort in knowing that the only way we will overcome this, is to survive one day at a time. For now, staying at home is the best that we can do. So we make the most of our hours at home. One day, we will look back on these days and miss these, I bet.

    4. Find an outlet.

    The mental load of a first-time mother at the time of Covid-19 is freaking heavy. You are in-charge of another person’s life now.

    That’s why to cope, I try to write so I can finally let all my thoughts and emotions out. If I leave this post unfinished, and save it as another draft, it will keep haunting me. I also find comfort that when I write down things, there will come a time that I will read them again and think “Ooh, so that happened before and now everything is better.

    Maybe take this time to finally meditate or workout, bake or cook, whatever that suits you. Nothing fancy, just focus your energies to doing something else instead of worrying and being anxious. It’s hard, but we need to be in-charge of our mental health to better care for others.

    So what else can you do when things are uncertain?

    • Focus on what truly matters
    • Consider sending private messages to people you care about, instead of posting rants publicly.
    • Don’t add to the burden that others are already carrying by spreading negativity or false news.
    • Have faith that this, too, shall pass.
    • In this time of crisis, be like a swan, but think like a wolf. Take charge of your pack.

    And oh. Find comfort in this promise from today’s readings:

    “All depends on faith, everything is grace.”
    —Rm 4:16

    #bagongnanay