Kumusta? October na, napakabilis ng panahon. Birth month ko na, at syempre, more than ever, I celebrate that I’m still here.
I asked the Bagong Nanay Community to take a moment to reflect on who they were bago sila naging Bagong Nanay. Life before motherhood ba. Minsan kasi, nakakalimutan na natin na ang dami pala nating mga nagawa at na-achieve bago tayo naging nanay, especially pag nalulunod na tayo sa daily chores at nauumay sa pag-aalaga ng bata.
Nakakatuwa ang sagot ng mga nanay, at meron ding mga nagpadala ng kanilang mga photos. Read on, and share us a part of your story too!
Moms respond to “Sino ka bago ka naging nanay?”
Banking
“I used to lead a group of officers and staff in an international bank handling operations and customer service for eight years and before that used to work in a TV network. It was my lifelong dream to be a journalist.” Love Cosio
Recruitment
“Before I became an AUsome Mom, I was in the field of recruitment, offshore recruitment to be exact I supported APAC & US clients for industries like banking, finance, insurance, IT & healthcare. This was pre-pandemic and every after work, I always chose to walk instead of riding a jeepney or Angkas to Park Square Glorietta where I’d take a van going home. Walking is therapeutic for me, itโs like my 10-minute me-time every day where I just clear my thoughts.
I stopped working for a while to focus on my AUsome son. It was really challenging, but it was worth it. Recently, Iโm back in the industry, starting again, but, it honestly feels good.” Pearl Marie Cordura
Adventure-seekers turned mamas
“HR professional, but being a stay-at-home mom is my favorite. Adventurer. Mountains, oceans, cliff jumps, island hopping. All those things.” Riyalyn Grace Pasimio
Health care
“I was a public hospital nurse on weekdays and an outdoor adventurer on weekends!” Ara Yeung
Credits: Ara Yeung
Freediver
“Marketing girl/freediver/lakwachera turned into SAHM. Loving this new role to be honest!” Gayle Dhillon
Credits: Gayle Hillon
Livestreamer
“I used to stream games online! I play to decompress.” Patrice Gonzales
Credits: Patrice Gonzales
HR Manager
“I used to dream of becoming an HR Manager back in 2013. I told myself that one day, thatโs the position I wanted. Little did I know, God granted that dream in 2018โsomething I never expected. I was always traveling for work, and I truly loved my job. One of the most touching moments was when the CEO himself told me that if I ever wanted to come back, the company doors would always be open for me. I was one of their pioneer employees, and he said I had greatly contributed to the companyโs beginnings. Today, Iโm so proud because that company has now grown into one of the leading courier services nationwide.” Charmeyn
“Grabe yung passion ko noon. Now that I’m a mom, I had to slow down. My child is teaching me to not rush life and enjoy the little things.”
Gelli Mae Tan
Mission work
“I used to be a full-time lay missionary, along with my husband. After getting married, we served together on mission in East Timor for 5 years – that’s where our first two kids were born. I have always loved writing / communicating, and wanted to take up writing in college but took what was supposedly a pre-Med course instead (for the love of my parents).
So I studied PT in college, took and passed the boards, but practiced PT only for a few months before answering His call to go fulltime in the mission field. Fast forward to the present, and now my work (and advocacies) are very focused on communication. God always has a way of making things work out for us, noh? Tina Santiago Rodriguez
“I remember that I was going almost block by block, business to business when I was a fresh grad. I was offering graphic design services with limited work experience and only a college portfolio. As in ginapang ko magkapangalan lang ako sa larangang ito, lalo na sa Baguio. It did came, yung chance na makilala. Na pag kailangan ng graphic artist sa Baguio, ako yung nirerefer. Grabe yung passion ko noon. Also built my own business after a few years and did so many rakets here and there. Now that I’m a mom, I had to slow down. My quick paced and di mapakali self had to chill. My child is teaching me to not rush life and enjoy the little things. She became my pahinga.” Gelli Mae Tan
From staging events to staying home
Corporate communications and events management
I was a corp comm girlie doing events and writing. Now a SAHM and loving every bit of it! Maiky Berenguer-Verayo
Credits: Maiky Berenguer-Verayo
“A corporate and events girlie for almost 10 years but being a SAHM is so worth it.” Judy Ann Danielle Abad-Roa
Credits: Judy Ann Danielle Abad-Roa
Ikaw, Bagong Nanay? What’s your story?
Me, when I was 29, I used to be a workaholic comms girlie, yung tipong unang dumadating sa office tapos huling uuwi. Mahilig kami tumambay after work hours sa Sheridan, rant sa work at lovelife. I love mounting events, brainstorming, making things happen, and traveling to our partner communities. Siargao? Thrice a year ata ako nandun. I’ve been to a lot of place in Philippines, minsan kakalapag lang, aalis na. Ngayon, as a mom of two, ni hindi makapag-CR ng matiwasay! Hahaha.
Judy Aladin at Calayan, Cagayan
Let’s continue the conversation. Join our Bagong Nanay Community on Viber. Send me a DM on Instagram @bagongnanay for the link!
Naging usapin sa Bagong Nanay Community on Viber kung paano nila dinidisiplina ang kanilang mga anak, particularly toddlers age 1-3. Yung tipong ang cute nila pero ang kukulit din nila. Naging healthy ang diskurso, kaya naman naisip kong dalhin sa Bagong Nanay Community on Instagram ang usaping ito.
Tinanong ko ang mga Bagong Nanays on Instagram kung saang team sila panig: #TeamPayo o #TeamPalo. Maraming nag-share ng kanilang mga kuwento bilang bata, at mga paninindigan nila ngayong magulang na sila. At mula sa dalawa, nahati sa maraming teams ang mga nanays.
Read more and let me know sa comment anong naging insight mo:
1. #TeamPayo: Based on my experience, palo didn’t work and I will not do it to my child.
Sabi ni Mommy reginalynj, she’s against palo because she experienced it multiple times as a child. “It did gave me a bad memory/trauma. That created a gap between me and my parents. Ayoko maranasan yun ng kids ko. Besides, at the end of the day, our toddlers/children are still learning. Tayo din. Hindi man tayo perfect as parents to give advice to our children, but we are enough for them, sa simpleng pagintindi lang muna sa kanila.”
Sangayon dito si Mommy empressanderithel, who said she grew up with all palo and bugbog without even explaining what she did wrong. “Kaya sabi ko kapag naging nanay na ako, I make sure na hindi nila mararanasan ito. Kaya ngayon more on payo ako. Tayong mga nanay, akala natin hindi tayo naiintindihan ng kid/s natin dahil nakatitig lang sila o kung minsan patay malisya. Pero they are like sponge. They absorb everything.”
Sabi naman ni mommy_alexies na lumaki din sa palo at bugbog, na iniiwasan niya talaga makasakit dahil ayaw niya maranasan ng kids niya ang naranasan niya before. “Kinakausap ko muna siya pero minsan di talaga umuubra kaya napapalo pa rin, pero after naman non nag-so-sorry ako at kinakausap siya bat ko nagawa ‘yon. And then she always say sorry rin pagtapos namin magusap.”
Sabi ni Mommy cybilmalipot, she also grew up with all palo. “It’s true that it has helped me toughen up, but its uncertain if it will have the same effect at my son. I think we cannot under estimate the capability of our children to understand. Naiintindihan nila tayo kahit those big round eyes just stare at us! Alam ko sa pit ng stomach ko na naiintindihan niya ako! Lol”
Agree din si Mommy mrs.brightside_ph. “Payo. Kasi kahit ako noon, hanggang ngayon naman din mas nakakaintindi o natututo sa payo kaysa palo.”
Si Mommy Sha of simplybabymnl din said she grew up with palo. “Until now I’m still dealing with issues. Kaya ngayong nanay na ako, pinipilit ko maging mindful and responsive parent. Ang hirap lang talaga minsan dahil sobrang kulit na. Madalas pa rin magakamali pero I stop at sigaw. Still not the right way but we’re human. Lagi ko na lang iniisip na yung behavior nya is developmentally appropriate sa age nya. We’re both learning.”
2. #TeamPalo, pero depende sa situation and with reservations
Ayon naman kay Mommy Chee, theintrosocial, “to be honest, okay din naman ang palo pero siguro mild lang tsaka nabasa ko noon dapat meron kang isang item na like stick or belt na gagamitin mo kapag paparusahan sya, hindi daw kamay. Kasi yun kamay, para yan sa touch of love. Para sakin, pag naulit na nya kahit ilan beses sabihan, need na ng punishment, with explanation.”
Ayon naman kay Mommy Jemmalyn ng awfhmomslife, both. “Hindi kasi effective yung parating payo there are instances na need ng palo to set boundaries. Meron kasi talagang mga batang madaling kausap at pagsabihan. Meron naman na sadyang nanunubok like my toddler. Paulit-ulit ipipilit hanggang mapalo.”
Sabi naman ni Mommy Lan of mothernurture_main, payo muna, pero minsan need ng palo, pero dapat hindi galit if ever need mamalo. “In our family, as much as possible iniiwasan may masaktan. Kausapin muna in private, and if need na paluin, we explain why and in private din.”
Ayon kay Mommy Stephanie aka thechinkymommy, she spanks her child but she has guidelines. Some of these are posted on her Instagram. “I never spank when I am angry. I spank in private. I will explain the reason why I spank them. I validate their feelings, hug and assure them that I love them, and then we say a prayer of confession to Jesus.”
Si mommychriszy naman, may levels. “Depende sa nagawang kasalanan pag level 1-3 lang Payo. Pag level 4-10 na need na Palo. She also quotes Proverbs 13:24 from the Bible: “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”
Ayon kay mommapearly, it depends also sa situation, but if may physical punishment, she prefers a little pinching or โkurot.โ Then after a few minutes, talk to the child and explain why you did, what you did. I believe it is also important that an early age, a child should be aware about consequences para as they grow older, gradually, they can be careful also with their choices in life.”
Dagdag pa ni Mommy Pearly, “I learned a saying that is usual daw in the US โsmall children, small problem, big children, big problemโ so to prevent โbig problemsโ prevent it early on. I also believe wala namang masama sa pagpalo, wag lang labis, alam naman natin na kahit anong labis/sobra ay masama at gawin lamang ito sa private, o sa sariling area at huwag sa harap ng madaming tao para hindi maramdaman ng bata na napapahiya siya.”
“Pero I also believe na setting the idea of consequence at an early age keeps a healthy parent-child relationship, because you can be like a barkada kind of relationship but a higher respect and sense of authority will always be there. I know a few kasi hindi sila masyado napagalitan when they were younger and even in their teenage years, the result, they can manipulate their parents, na sila ang madalas masunod or mas parang sila pa ang may authority over the parents. I do not blame the parents perhaps itโs their dynamics at home talaga and thatโs their way of love AND I am not saying too na this will always be the end result, but there will always be chances.”
3. #TeamProperGuidance
Eto naman ang pananaw ni Mommy C-ann aka hirayaaa, “Nakafocus ako sa pagbuild ng connection at tinatry ko na bawasan or huwag masyadong magfocus sa correction. Iniiwasan ko ang shaming at blaming o paninisi o paggawa ng something na makakasira sa self worth ng mga anak ko. Syempre hindi madali. Mahirap magpigil ng emosyon lalo na kapag traditional parenting ang kinalakhan natin.”
Ayon kay Mommy C-ann, ang pagpapalaki ng mga bata ay more than just managing their behavior. “Para sa akin, importanteng ituring sila na mga mabuting tao at hindi i-label na “makulit” o “pasaway” dahil mga bata silang nageexplore pa lang ng mundo at ng kaya nilang gawin. Ang pag-focus ko sa pag-connect with them ay pagkilala sa kanila bilang mga buo nang tao na unti-unting nagbubloom. Andito lang ako bilang guide.”
“I believe lessons reach them better when the connection is strong,” sabi rin ni Mommy ritalovesbranding.
Sang-ayon din dito si Mommy ryam_rics. “I came from a dysfunctional family and all those physical/emotional abuse didnโt help for my well being as a child. In fact, it became worst. As a mother, I realized that proper guidance is necessary for my child. Shaming or hurting as form of discipline will just lead them to trauma. Thereโs no perfect mother same as our children, we are all learning and we can always practice patience and mindful parenting.”
Dagdag pa ni Mommy xingogaoiran, “They are smarter than what you think they are. Naiintindihan nila ang mga sinasabi natin. Kailangan lang maayos ang pagpapaliwanag.”
Yan din ang sagot ni Mommy joselleona, “Too unfair for toddlers to be expected to be as mature as adults. Non verbal pa sila mostly.”
Ayon kay Mommy Chesca of studiomaria.formamas, siya ay Team Payo din dahil ang mga toddlers ay wala pang impulse control. “Di sila nananadya, di lang pa talaga nila kaya kontrolin. (Tayo nga di natin makontrol minsan galit natin diba? At this age hehe).
But I am also team *help moms with their needs so that we have the headspace to be patient and understanding of our kids* โฅ๏ธ Kasi diba pag gutom, pagod, puyat, stressed ka, mas maikli pasensya mo.”
Kung paano matutulungan ang mga strong moms na tinatawag, sumali sa conversation ng Studio Maria sa IG.
Final note
At the end of the day, walang panalo at talo sa mga nanay na ito. Wala ring hidwaan dahil lahat tayo ay mga work-in-progress. Personally, hindi ako napalo ng aking mga magulang, at ako ay nagtrabaho noon sa Bantay Bata 163 kung saan nakasalamuha ko ang mga batang nakaranas ng matinding physical abuse.
Pero hindi nangangahulugan na hindi ko kailanman mapapalo ang aking anak. Ang aking anak na dinala ko ng siyam na buwan sa sinapupunan, ni hindi pinapadapuan ng langaw at lamok, at laging may binibilhan ng taho o Happy Meal. Mga nanay tayo na may hangganan din, at madalas, nasa sa atin ang control.
Naniniwala ako sa lahat ng pananaw ng mga Bagong Nanays, pero nais kong i-emphasize ang sinabi ni Mommy Chesca. Bilang isang Maternal Mental Health advocate, napakahalaga sa atin na mag-observe ng mga habits kung saan magiging mas masaya, mabuti, at patient tayong mga nanay. [Kung paano maaachieve ito, pwede niyong basahin ang Mental Health Wellness activity book na ito ng Doctors Without Borders.]
Self-care is not selfish
Hindi kailangang drastic ang changes para maging healthy ka, Bagong Nanay. Pwedeng magsimula ka lang sa pagkakaroon ng self-care routine. Kahit 10 minutes lang for yourself everyday. Yan ang ikakampanya namin this Women’s Month, kasama ang apat pang mga nanays.
We want you to #Take10Mama. Take 10 minutes for yourself, everyday. So that you can better care for others.
Dahil kung tayo mismo ay malusog ang pangangatawan, damdamin at isip, mas makakapag-discern tayo ng maayos sa lahat ng ating gagawin, including discipline. Higit sa lahat, ieemphasize ko din ang paghingi ng tulong. Naiintindihan ko na mahirap maging healthy, pero kakayanin natin yan kung mayroon tayong tulong mula sa ating partner, pamilya, mga kaibigan, o support group. Higit sa lahat, sa Diyos.
Uulitin ko, lahat tayo ay work in progress. Hindi ibig sabihin na kung pinapalo mo ang anak mo ay masamang magulang ka, at kung hindi mo pinapalo ay mabuting magulang ka. Iba-iba ang ating mga anak, iba-iba tayong mga nanay, at sa tingin ko, ang pinaka-nagkakaisa tayong lahat ay gusto nating magtulungan dahil hindi natin ito kaya mag-isa.
Again, #BagongNanaysEMPOWERBagongNanays
Sabi nga ni Mommy Victoria Dang sa kanyang book na “Go Momshie,” “real moms fix each other’s crowns.”
Ikaw, Bagong Nanay, anong masasabi mo?
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Relate din ba kayo na when we became moms, parang may something na nangyari sa ating mga brains. Haha. Either nagiging makakalimutin, or dahil nag-maternity leave, parang feeling natin may mga changes when it comes to decision-making dahil siguro sa lack of sleep and other factors.
Ako, guilty ako dito. Ang term nga, madalas akong ‘sabaw.’ Haha. And it’s okay! Meron naman pwedeng gawin to keep our mind back to being sharp and healthy eh! Ang mahalaga we do something to improve everyday. At hindi naman mahirap gawin. Mahalaga lang, aware tayo sa mga need natin gawin at kung para saan natin ito ginagawa. Maternal mental health is important, mommies!
Kaya naman, I asked the Bagong Nanay community on Instagram (na 2,000 followers and counting na, btw, woohoo!) kung ano ang ginagawa nila to keep their mind sharp and focused. At ito ang top 10 na sagot nila!
1. Pray and meditate
Ang daming sumagot nito like Mommy Chesca, and I can also relate kasi iba talaga yung feeling when you take time to talk to your Creator. Parang instant peace of mind siya, samahan mo pa ng deep breaths.
Photo credit: Studio Maria for Mamas Facebook Page
Kahit say a short prayer lang when you start the day, or read some scriptures, iba siyang pang-kickstart ng day. Kung trip mo ito gawin habang nagdidiffuse ng essential oils, perfect oil ang Frankincense.
2. Exercise
Naalala ko sabi sa akin ng isa kong Bagong Nanay friend na motherhood is her workout. Yung pagbuhat, paghabol, at pakikipaglaro kay baby while you are doing your chores or work, nakakapagod na talaga at nakakapayat ha!
Pero if you’ve been thinking about taking your postpartum fitness workout seriously, I highly recommend that you follow Coach Mindy Lagdameo on Instagram. She is the Philippines’ first postpartum core rehab specialist, and member din siya ng Bagong Nanay community. She posts helpful workout tips, and how it helped her fight postpartum depression.
Sa kanya mo malalaman kung ano ang diastasis recti at magugulat ka na baka meron ka pala nito.
Photo credit: Mindy Lagdameo on Facebook
3. Read books
Eto for sure, isa sa mga effective ways talaga to keep your mind sharp. Especially sa panahon ngayon na ang daming kung anu-anong content online (gaya nito, hehe), iba pa rin ang feeling and benefit when you sit down and read a book.
Trivia: I am a big fan of American horror writer Stephen King. Kaya I started the group Stephen King Philippines on Facebook to gather his Filipino fans. Kaso when I became a mom, wala na akong nabasang Stephen King book ulit, kasi either wala akong chance or hahablutin ng toddler ko ang binabasa ko.
Eto nalang ang mga nababasa ko recently, at memorized ko na by heart. This book taught me that I could be a nanay and more. Diba?
Recently, I shared my top 3 books on Instagram. You can watch it here. Ikaw, anong favorite book mo?
4. Attend online webinars and trainings
As a content creator, ang daming updates and new features ng mga social media sites like Facebook and Instagram, and need natin mag-keep up! Diba, isang araw, bigla nalang may Reels sa Instagram, na kamukhang-kamukha ng TikTok. Hehe.
Kaya naman, I join digital marketing trainings by Go Digital ASEAN – The Asia Foundation on SEO, Facebook ads, and more. Free lang siya. Recommended ko din ang mga webinars ng Smart Parenting, Mommy Mundo, Babypalooza PH, at M2 Lactation Club, especially for moms! Maswerte tayo, madaming free webinars to enrich our minds ngayon, at may chance pa to win prizes!
I also joined the Soulful Socials 21-Day Reels Boot Camp, and it’s fun! You can check out my fellow boot campers’ reels by searching #SSReelsBootCamp on Instagram. Ang gaganda ng content, promise!
Eto yung first time ko to create on Instagram Reels, and proud ako dito. Hehe.
5. Listen to music and podcasts
Still my favorite purchase for this year ang Spotify Premium. Napansin ko kasi nagiging mas productive ako when I work while listening to my curated playlist – nang walang ads. Hehe.
Minsan naman when I sort my desktop files or packing orders, I listen to podcasts. My favorite is Paano Ba ‘To podcast by Bianca Gonzales, and Wake Up With Jim & Saab by the Bacarro power couple.
Grabe this ep, I just listened to this now, and super relate!!!
Ang daming mapupulot na wisdom sa mga podcasts nila, and they are all for free!
6. Rest and sleep
Isa ito sa mga pinakamahalagang healthy habits na kailangan nating matutunang mga Bagong Nanay na gawin. When we gave birth, naging interrupted na ang sleeping patterns natin, and when we realize it, 2 years old na pala ang anak natin, so 2 years na tayong puyat!
The more puyat we are, the more grumpy and indecisive we become. And hindi yun healthy for our brain. Rest when you can. Easier said than done, pero if we put premium on sleep, madami talagang magbabago sa buhay natin for the better.
7. Social media detox
Once in a while, need natin mag-take ng social media breaks. Because we should do anything in moderation, ika nga. Sa dami ng mga kaganapan sa social media, minsan toxic din ito for our mental health. Ang tanong: kaya mo bang hindi mag-Facebook or Instagram for a day? May kilala ako, nag-log out siya from all of her social media accounts for a few years already! Read her story here.
8. Watch K-Drama shows
Yes yes yes. Kim Seon Ho, at ang lahat ng mga oppa natin ay good for our mental health. Hehehe. During my first few months as a Bagong Nanay, doon ko na-discover ang world of K-Drama. Yung mga times na kailangan gising ka habang nagpapadede, yung mga time na clingy si baby at naka-latch lang dahil growth spurt. Kdrama ang kasama ko to survive each day, kasi laging gising ang diwa mo kay Park Seo Jun or Jung Hae In. Lol kaya mo ba silang tulugan. Hahaha.
9. Enjoy your coffee
I’m not a coffee drinker, but I know a lot of people who can’t start their day without drinking coffee. For Nanays, good luck if you can drink your coffee while it’s hot! Pero yes, don’t just drink your coffee, but enjoy it because that’s how it can help you stay focused and perked up to face the day! And if you are looking for a healthier version of coffee, try malunggay coffee here!
10. Play
Play online games, or play with your child. Just as how kids get smarter through play, ganun din tayo as adults!
Just do something that you enjoy, and that will help your mind happy and healthy!
Kaya naman, check out this FREE wellness activity book from Doctors Without Borders. This is a good resource on how you can not only keep your mind sharp, Nanay, but improve your overall health by doing simple yet proven effective routines everyday.
Libre lang siya, so if you have a printer at home, go ahead and print it! Share it to other moms who may need a breather too. Di natin alam gaano nila ito ka-kailangan.
Photo credit: Doctors Without Borders website
Bagong Nanay, kung gusto mo ng printed copy nito, just share this LINK to your social media sites, and tag @bagongnanay in your post, and we will choose five (5) moms whom we will send printed copies for FREE! Who knows, baka samahan ko pa ng samples ng Mother Nurture Malunggay Coffee. :)
Have a great week ahead, Bagong Nanay! You are so loved.
Kamusta ka? Tapos mo na ba ang Hometown Chachacha? Ito ang question of the week para sa akin eh, hehe.
Pero grabe, intense ang ating Question of the Week! Tinanong ko lang naman kung ano ang advice ng mga nanay para sa mga Bagong Nanay who are living with their mother-in-law (MIL).
Nakakatuwa marinig ang iba’t ibang opinyon nila, at meron pang nagpadala ng kanyang response anonymously!
Choose your battles
Same goes with friends and family who give unsolicited advice on how to be a parent diba?
Compromise is key
Eto ay kung makikipagkumpromiso din siya.
Second mom
Ang tanong: paano mo ba tinatrato ang mom mo?
Listen. Only.
Iwas gulo ito. Hehehe.
Two words.
Ah pwede naman palang pag-usapan muna. Hehe. Basta si husband ang makikipag-usap!
The art of deadma
A wise nanay once said… haha!
Kiliti
In fairness!
The bottomline is…
Kanya-kanya tayong opinyon, and iba-iba ang experiences natin.
MIL in Heaven
Siguro most of us nanays will become MIL din in the future. How do we want to be remembered by our children? How do we want our in-laws to treat us? Reflect din tayo on this pag may time.
As for me, get to know your MIL and her love language. Baka sakaling magkaintindihan kayo. Talk to your husband if you feel uncomfortable with your setup. And if all else fails, ask God for guidance. Hehe.
Ikaw, anong advice mo sa Bagong Nanays who are living with their mother-in-law? Share mo naman!
Mahilig tayo magbigay ng advice sa mga kapwa natin nanay – anong pwedeng gawin sa colic, paano mag-sleep training, anong best binder, saan mura ang stroller. Dahil pinakamaganda magtanong sa mga naka-experience na nito. Been there, bundat. Hehe.
Pero may advice ka bang natanggap mula sa kapwa nanay mo na talagang tumatak sayo?
Tinanong ko ang mga Bagong Nanay sa Instagram kung ano ang best advice na nakuha nila from a fellow Bagong Nanay. And I love the range! Continue reading at sana may mapulot ka!
When you feel like you are wrong…
TYL at mabilis silang magpatawad.
When you feel like you are pressured to be the best…
“You will end up stressed and disappointed,” sabi rin ni Mommy Erin.
When you are overthinking things…
Focus on what matters.
When you feel like you are the only one who is struggling…
You are not alone.
When you feel like you are not enough…
Tandaan mo din yan.
Diba. Ang sarap. Wag sana tayo maging madamot sa pagbigay ng mga advice sa ating fellow Nanays. Minsan kasi, maliit na bagay lang sa atin, pero sa kanila, kailangang kailangan nilang marinig yun at that moment.
Shameless plugging. Nanay Judy (ako po yun) will be going on Instagram Live chat with Mama Missy Santos (@mamafindsbliss) and Mommy Krz Lopez-Pareja on Oct 2, Sat, 3pm to talk about postpartum depression.
Join us on Saturday, 3pm at Mama Finds Bliss on Instagram
First time ko itong gagawin on IG Live – ang ishare ang aking postpartum struggles, with the goal to help at least one mom struggling in the dark. Sana by sharing our stories, we can inspire you to get help, and share yours too. We need to raise awareness on maternal mental health because moms deserve help.
Because we are all in this together. #BagongNanaysEmpowerBagongNanays
What’s the best advice you received from a fellow Bagong Nanay? Comment below!
Sorry na, nakalimutan ko gawin itong blog na ito. Hehehe.
Pang-justify lang ba ng mga nakakalimutang tasks ang #mombrain? O real talaga siya?
Tinanong ko ang mga Bagong Nanays on Instagram kung ano ang eksenang mombrain nila recently. At naloka ako sa mga sagot nila! ๐
Me, all the time
Apir!
Soap-as!
Na-disinfect din yung pasta haha
Saing naman…
Buti nalang
It’s asin
Pweh
Expectation vs reality
Wag kasi masyado mag-expect
Alamat ng Suklay
Hahahaahahaha
In chorus
Mamaaa x 3
Luhhhh
Padede moms know!
Best answer goes to Mommy Daisy Sanuco! You will receive a gift pack from The Bagong Nanay Shop, featuring its newest product: Mother Nurture Malunggay Coffee and Choco Mixes. Yey!
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Trivia: Alam niyo ba na most of the recent Bagong Nanay Question of the Week questions ay hindi galing sa akin? Yes. Galing sila kay husband – si Bagong Tatay! Hehe.
Kaya nung pinost ko ang Bagong Nanay Question of the Week natin, natuwa ako! Parang napa-throwback ako sa testi days ng friendster! Parang nagkaroon ng outlet ang mga mommies on Instagram para i-recognize ang mga nanay influencers na paborito nila, at the same time, nirecognize din ng mga influencers ang mga nanay fans nila. Hehe.
Napili siya ni Mommy brendaaguilan dahil “very friendly, soft-spoken, God-fearing and laging nagsishare ng opportunity.”
Sabi naman ni inaybessie, “ang cute ng content niya pramis, busy lang ako kaya hindi ko pa napapakinggan ang podcast niya, nakaka-goodvibes ang videos niya.”
Follow Mommy Therese Cardenas aka thenurturingmomma as she aims to bring back sanity and self-care to nurturing mommas. Check out her podcast, Hello Momdays!
2. slayingmotherhood
Sabi ni mamatin.blogs, fina-follow niya si Mommy Babzee dahil “kalog! Fun and exciting parenting.” Si Mommy mayjowa_na, siya ang top 2 dahil sabi niya, “gustong gusto ko talaga yung mga nanay na may sense of humour sa mga post.”
Follow Mommy Babzee aka slayingmotherhood, if you want to see more of her “witty nanay” posts like this:
“Sobrang down to earth, hindi madamot sa opportunity, kaalaman, medyo mukhang masungit. Nanay na Nanay,” sabi ni mamatin.blogs.
Sabi ni mommyfarizza, “Yung words of wisdom niya super nakakainspire. Isa siya sa mga inspirasyon ko bakit pa tuloy akong nagpupursige maging isang ambassador.”
Follow mommypehpot, mom of five, dahil baka ikaw nalang ang hindi pa naka-follow sa kanya! She has 78.5k followers to date. Wow.
4. justcheespeaks
Eto, personal favorite ko din itong si Mommy Chee! Kaya naman isa siya sa mga ininvite ko na magsulat ng #KuwentongBagongNanay niya bilang isang nanay influencer. Read here, kung hindi mo pa nababasa ang story niya.
Agree si mommy_alexies, favorite din niya si Mommy Chee, “kasi gaganda ng content niya especially usapang content creator.”
Follow Mommy Chee Vicente aka justcheespeaks if you want to know best practices and Instagram hacks for content creators and brand owners.
5. mommypracticality
Sabi ni Mommy joannaguilalas, “love her contents! Super friendly at approaching pa.” Same sila ni mamatin.blogs, “love the content too! Mapagbigay ng opportunity at relate sa mga post.”
Follow Mommy Louise aka mommypracticality, and learn from her practical guide to mommy life.
6. chammagsaysay
Sabi ni mamajloncho, fan siya ni Mommy Cham dahil “I love her family! Nakakatuwa mga feeds nya, all about family and un mga twinnings nila ni Keia, wishing magkakababy girl din para makatwinning din like Mommy Cham and Keia.”
Si mommyjoannaguilalas din hanga sa kanya, “super idol ko to when it comes to juggling her time for work, her family and for herself. Plus her contents! Super gaganda and nakakaakit talaga!”
Follow Mommy Cham Estrera Magsaysay aka chammagsaysay, ang ganda nga ng feed niya!
7. karenclaudene
Sabi ni scofield.mom, favorite niya si Mommy Karen. “I don’t remember kung paano ko siya nakilala, pero out of the blue, na-inlove ako sa pagiging napaka-down-to-earth niya, tutulungan ka niya at isshare niya talaga sayo yung blessing niya. Kelan lang nasabi ko sa kanya, na nabibilib ako sa pagiging multiperson niya, (influencer, mother, wife and nag-aaral pa, plus may business ding hinahandle) kaya naman talaga #BeautifulWithAHeart.
Top 1 din siya ni Mommy rvlsjn.20, “Bakit? Dahil sobrang idol na idol ko siya since nakilala ko siya na isa pala siyang momfluencer. Ayun, kapag palagi kong nakikita IG stories niya or any post, nagrereact at nagcocomment talaga ako ๐โฅ๏ธ Nakafavorites siya sa akin.”
“I love her for being a wais Mommy and mga tipid tips nya, syempre as a mom need natin maging wais sa mga decision lalo na financially,” sabi ni mamajloncho.
Agree dyan si Mommy joannaguilalas, “the best ang tipid hacks and tips. Very helpful!”
Follow Mommy Gracie aka tipidmommy for posts on grateful living, hacks, budget talks, and buhay nanay.
“She is very passionate on everything she does. Super love her contents, sharing every tips and good finds on her page!” sabi ni Mommy joannaguilalas. Isa din siya sa top 3 ni Mommy reinloves, “sila talaga ung nilu-look up kong mga momfluencer. To me they are family, truly an inspiration lalo na sa kagaya kong first-time mommy palang.”
Follow Mommy Dette Zulueta aka millennialmomsph, for good finds, tips & giveaways.
Sabi ni mommajoycekim, isa sa mga favorites niya i-follow si Kumareng Amor. “Super blessed ako nakilala ko sila napakababait nilang tao inspired na inspired ako maachieve yung goals ko lalo na sa pagiging momfluencer, dahil sa kanila mas lumalakas loob ko at nakafocus ako sa kung ano yung dapat kong gawin. Nagpapasalamat din po ako at mahal na mahal ko sila kasi nakakainspire sila ng mga mommies kagaya ko.”
Follow _mommamsyc aka Kumareng Amor to know how she inspires moms to become mombassadors too.
Maraming salamat sa pagsagot, Bagong Nanay! Na-notice tuloy tayo ng mga nanay influencers. Hehe. Dahil dyan, as promised, may one winner ng Nanayversary Gift Pack from The Bagong Nanay Shop!
First anniversary na kasi ng The Bagong Nanay Shop, kaya thankful ako sa mga Bagong Nanays for helping me achieve this achievement (any daw, sabaw at 4am). Salamat!
Congratulations to Mommy ms.agramirez! Will send you a message on how to claim your prize. :)
Love, Nanay Judy of Bagong Nanay (o, i-follow niyo din ako please, haha)
PS. May special prize si mamatin.blogs dahil nilagay niya ang Bagong Nanay sa Top 3 nanay influencers niya. Iba rin ang feeling! ๐คญ๐คฃ Salamat, Mommy Tin!
One month ago, tinanong ko ang mga Bagong Nanay sa Instagram kung ano ang kanilang kakaibang pastime o libangan with their little one (LO). At siyempre, bilang dot com na tayo, level up na dapat ang content! Nanghingi ako ng mga supporting pictures sa mga sagot nila! At masaya ako dahil ang dali nila kausap. Hehe. #SharingIsCaring talaga lalo na during this time.
Kaya eto na ang mga activities na ginagawa ng mga Bagong Nanay, na baka hindi mo pa natatry.
PRO NA PRO SILA! Posted with permission from Mommy Chee Speaks
Usong-uso itong pastime, at madami ang sumagot nito, gaya nina Mommy Chee, Mommy Jhen, at Mommy Kristel. Sa totoo lang, tempt na tempt na kong i-download ang app na ito at sumali sa TikTok craze. Hehe.
SOBRANG CUTE! Posted with permission from Mommy Jhenalyn Mariano
Kung ayaw niyo naman ng TikTok dahil private person kayo, pwede ding videocall nalang with your loved ones, gaya ng sabi ni Mommy Guamela. “Bukod sa naiibsan ang pagkamiss sa isa’t isa, na-i-sho-showcase pa ng LO ko ang kanyang mga bagong tricks. Everybody happy!”
2. Mag-drawing
Ito daw ang pastime nila Mommy Alexies at ng kanyang LO. Eto rin ang madalas namin pastime ng aking toddler dahil ayoko siyang masyadong magbabad sa gadgets. Kaya meron kaming crayons at watercolor at napakaraming notebook. Mapupuno na nga namin, dahil daig pa ng nagpapagawa ng commission artworks ang anak ko.
Posted with permission from Mommy Alexies
This is my toddler, happy siya sa puzzles na gawa ko using M2 Malunggay Tea boxes!
3. Cooking and Baking
For Mommy Sam, cooking and eating ang therapeutic pastime nila ng kanyang not-so-little little one. “There’d be times na nasa kusina kami kahit medyo gabi na, looking for food, or preparing a late night snack. Bonding na rin namin yun. I’m happy he thinks I can make all the food he wants.”
SARAP YAN? Mango gelatin and coffee jelly by Mommy Sam
For Mommy Rej, aside from yoga, baking ang pastime nila. Medyo messy, pero masaya siya! Tuwing Sunday, nagluluto ako ng pancakes, at si toddler ko ang magmimix ng batter. Natutuwa siya, at iniisip ko din na may real-life Matilda na ako. Hehe.
Very relevant din itong new blog post ni Mommy Rej about parenting in the pandemic. Lalo na sa mga mommies na guilty sa screentime ng kids nila. Check out kung paano nila ito na-address here.
4. Indoor swimming
Ayon kay Mommy Jowana, “dahil sa mainit na panahon at hindi makagala para pumunta ng beach, naglagay kami ng inflatable swimming pool at konting meryenda para sa mga bagets. Nung wala pang pandemic, tuwing summer nasa dagat kami. Sobrang miss na namin ang mag-beach.” YES, mommy. YES na YES.
Posted with permission from Mommy Jowana Facun Gumboc
Kami ng toddler ko, hanggang bath tub lang. At gusto pa naka-swimsuit siya. Hehe. Sana makapag-beach na ulit soon. Go away, COVID-19!
5. Maglinis
Eto yung mapapa-Sana All ka talaga. Hehe. Nakakatuwa kung si LO ay hindi lang pastime ang magkalat ano? Sana pati maglinis din. Hehe. Kaya natuwa ako sa sharing ni Mommy Sha.
VACUUM SIYA OH! Posted with permission from Mommy ShaWALIS, WALIS! Posted with permission from Mommy Sha
Nakakatuwa pag natututunan nila yung mga ganito at an early age. Kasi ibig sabihin nakikita nila at na-a-appreciate nila na ginagawa din ito ni Mommy. Eto pa, isa pang pinadala ni Mommy Sha na sobrang aliw:
REAL-LIFE LUTU-LUTUAN! Magpabudol ka na and add to cart this set here
O, diba. Ang daming ideas! Salamat sa mga nag-share ng kanilang mga pastime with their LOs. May maidadagdag pa ba kayo?
ECQ, MECQ, GCQ pa man, may nananatiling constant: kailangang bumangon at magluto ng Bagong Nanay.
Dahil bawal lumabas, madalas gusto nalang natin magpadeliver ng pagkain. Kaya naglipana ang mga Facebook and Viber groups kung saan napakaraming pwedeng pagpilian. Sold tayo lalo na pag mabasa natin ang magic words na “FREE DELIVERY.” ๐
Pero siyempre, hindi naman pwedeng araw-araw take-out or delivery. Magastos siya, at alam nating mas malinis at mas mura pag lutong-bahay. Problema, ang hirap mag-isip ng lulutuin sa araw-araw, o di kaya, hindi naman tayo magaling magluto. Saktong fried egg lang or pancit canton ang alam natin bago tayo nagkapamilya. ๐
Katulad ko ba kayo na kada gabi, naglilista na ako kung ano ang lulutuin kinabukasan, para hindi ako mag-aksaya ng brain cells kakatitig sa kung anong mga ingredients sa ref. Kaya lang, madalas, paulit-ulit na ang niluluto ko. Ako mismo nauumay na.
Kaya naman, tinanong ko ang mga Bagong Nanay sa Instagram kung ano ang mga easy-to-cook recipes nila ngayong ECQ na naging MECQ na pala. Kinompile ko sila, at nagsingit na rin ng mga photos ng luto ko. ๐ฅฐ
May sabaw
Nilagang baka na may mais
Sinigang na isda
Miso soup
Law-uy (bisaya vegetable soup)
Tinolang manok with malunggay
Hotpot
Paboritong lutuin kapag kakapamalengke palang ng gulay – sinigang na kahit ano!
Dahil may toddler kami sa bahay, mahilig siya sa sinabawang kahit na ano. Pag may sabaw ang ulam, sure na marami ang kakainin niya.
Ginisa
Ginisang sayote
Ginisang sayote sa sardinas
Ginisang pechay sa sardinasSpicy tuna sisig
Ginisang kamatis with egg
Sizzling tofu
Stir-fry vegetables (carrots, beans, sayote)
Ginisang repolyo
Ginisang sausage
Gisa ka lang ng giniling, add cabbage, cheese, wrap in tortilla – instant burrito!
Basta’t may bawang at sibuyas, may ulam. Share ko lang – napaka-life-changing ng tortilla wraps. Yung mga usual na ginigisa mo lang, ibalot mo sa tortilla wrap, at mag-le-level-up ang luto mo.
Veega meat-free burger steak with mushroom gravy and mashed potatoes!
Eto yung mga pinakamadaling lutuin. Kaso, madalas, kulang sa nutrition! Kaya pag prito ang ulam namin, lagi akong magtitimpla ng M2 Malunggay Okra Luya Tea. Para sagot na niya yung gulay. ๐
M2 Malunggay Okra Luya Tea ang favorite drink namin!
May sarsa
Adobong manok
Adobong baboy
Kinamatisang manok na may malunggay
Adobong manok with spinach
Sarsa is love. Kasi sarsa palang, ulam na!
Non-rice
Spaghetti
Tuna pasta
Tacos
Creamy chicken alfredo pasta with quesadillas
Madalas kong menu for the day is breakfast, lunch na rice, then dinner na pasta. Para medyo may variety. Bili kayo ng iba-ibang klase ng pasta para di kayo maumay na puro spaghetti lang. Lakas din maka-sosyal ng olives. Favorite ng toddler ko.
Roasted
Oven-roasted cabbages
Roasted or baked chicken
Sausages with baked potatoes
Maharlika Taste’s Beef Randang with cucumber and tortilla
Dahil wala kaming oven, microwave is key sa amin. Like this instant ulam – beef randang in a bottle, heat lang, then poof! Walang kapagod-pagod pero ang sarap! Okay din ang gourmet tuyo or spanish sardines for instant ulam.
Instant
Eto naman ang ultimate panawid gutom. Instant noodles but make it fashion! Lagyan ng mga available gulay, egg, and beef balls. I-serve with nori/seaweed, and with kimchi on the side. Naging ramen ang simpleng mami!
Sana may napulot kayong ideas dito ng lulutuin habang naka-lockdown pa rin tayo. Kapit lang, naway matapos na ang pandemya at makapag-boodle fight na ulit with our loved ones.
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